I heard a therapist say, “Your feelings are always valid, your behavior is not.” She explained by saying feel what you feel BUT you need to be accountable for what you do as a result of those feelings.
things are meant to be used. paint is meant to stain, perfumes are meant to be sprayed, candles are meant to be burned, clothes are meant to be worn. stop waiting for a good day to use things. use things to have a good day.