ninu

forest, flute, debian, mostly @n8, shy, ex-programmer, loves to build stuff, likes elves

[The_Narc_Decoder @NarcDecoder]

A narcissist never fully recovers from losing a super empath.

Because they lost someone who kept loving them while ignoring their own pain.
Both have the same childhood wounds.
Both felt neglected and abandoned.

One learned to survive by over-loving, over-giving...
the other by shutting down.
The empath sees the pain beneath the narcissist's mask... and stays.
That's why this connection can feel deeper than love and harder to break. I's beyond trauma bonding.

The super empath sees the wounds beneath the narcissist's mask.
The insecurity. The pain. The wounded child hiding behind control, anger or charm.
And instead of leaving... they stay, love harder, forgives more and understands deeper.
That's what makes the connection so powerful. For the first time, the narcissist feels seen beyond the mask... and not rejected.

Other people may give the narcissist attention... but few can offer the depth, understanding and unconditional love a super empath gives.
The super empath didn't just love the mask.
They loved what was hiding underneath.

But the tragedy is:

The super empath loses themselves in the process.
Their compassion becomes self abandonment.
Their patience becomes toxic tolerance.
And while the narcissist is being saved... the super empath slowly breaks.

Eventually the super empath reaches a breaking point.
Not because they stopped loving the narcissist...
but because they realise love cannot heal someone who refuses to face their own wounds.
That is the final heartbreak.

The super empath walks away to save themselves.
And the narcissist loses the one person who saw beyond the mask... and stayed.

If this hit home, then you need to hear this: it's time to stop trying to save the person who is hurting you and start saving yourself.

#narcissists #traumabond #soulties

[Things From the Past @pastarchive]

An Inuit man warms up his wife’s feet in Greenland, 1890s. (Photo by Robert E. Peary)

[Brian4new @GustBrian]

Nature is amazing 😇

[The Golden Age @thegoldenaged]

"That thing could rip us to shreds, Julia"

[Hoodlum 🇺🇸 @NotHoodlum]

I don’t have a problem with him falling asleep. It’s the waking up part I have a huge issue with.

[Celestara @celestaracosmos]

To my soulmate,
Tell me when you’re ready because I want to come home.

[LateNighter @latenightercom]

With 'The Late Show' signing off soon, Stephen Colbert attempts to secure a presidential exclusive from Pete Buttigieg.

[The woman @Tarmeim]

If someone initiates an uncomfortable conversation instead of avoiding you, it’s often a sign of respect and investment in the relationship. Most people will prioritize their own comfort and avoid taking a positive risk rather than endure a little awkwardness to repair a rupture.

So much we want in life is on the other side of a difficult conversation.

[Reju @Rejushekder]

@Gabbrielxzn Healthy relationships aren’t perfect stories.
They’re built in the uncomfortable talks, the honest moments, and the patience to understand each other’s flaws.
It’s not about ego or fantasy, it’s about choosing to grow together, even when it’s not easy.

[Kingmaker @MindHealthMaker]

Emotional Abuse Looks Like This:

• The silent treatment
• Refusing to take responsibility for actions
• Manipulating others to get what you want
• Making someone question their own sanity
• Blaming someone for things that aren’t their fault
• Using shame to make a person feel bad
• Showing indifference when someone is hurt or upset
• Ignoring someone when they express deep emotions
• Ridiculing someone for being vulnerable

[‏ً @itsnwts]

Nobody actually likes you when you're depressed. Plain and simple. We can talk all day about mental health and how important it is, but the moment you are depressed, people start to distance themselves. They see you as negative, a burden, and someone too heavy to handle.

[🤠 @heavensbvnny]

There’s a Turkish saying: “If you truly love someone, you love them twice.” The first time, it’s all about attraction, their smile, voice, and presence. But slowly, the curtain lifts. You begin to see their scars, insecurities, mood swings, trauma, and moral differences. It’s no longer perfect; it’s real. And if you can still love them without filters, without expectations, that’s not infatuation. That’s the love of understanding, the kind that stays, the kind that grows.

[ninu @angryelvenjd]

kiwi likes the sun

[ninu @angryelvenjd]

The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.
support in hard times, adjusting the course when things do not work as planned, instead of trying the old over and over... it hardens the ground, leaves no room for sprouts

[Kate @Shortwoman93]

2016 (High priority) e-mail German cognitive scientist & AI researcher Joscha Bach sent to Jeffrey Epstein

“By genetic switch or other method you might be able to make blacks smarter by changing time for motor layer development […] telemeres for the cell are their equivalents ”

[ninu @angryelvenjd]

@thecureverse @HIDEO_KOJIMA_EN @thecure @RobertSmith The first lp I bought myself. Was 13 then.

[Björn 🦊 now at @techniker.bsky.social @techniker]

Ob ihr Lack gesoffen habt habe ich gefragt!?! 🤢🤮 #Europawahl