Being traumatized by a man who chased and wanted you first has got to be a humiliation ritual of some sort especially if you lowered your standards to be with him in the first place. Like ew.
accountability is so important to me. nobody is perfect, but don’t try to flip the script & make my reaction the issue when your action lit the match.
the conversation about communication in relationships needs to shift. why does it take escalating levels of distress from a woman before her needs get acknowledged
sometimes even an apology can’t fix what happened because the real issue is not the mistake, it’s the part of your character that allowed you to do it in the first place. and you can’t apologize for character.
This is a sign to leave our super-understanding era because sometimes people just take advantage of the kindness that we are giving. I'm so done with being okay with what they are doing and feeling sorry for myself afterward.
when i feel ignored in the slightest way so i revoke all personality privileges and go back to being quiet dry and uninterested, like yes now i will give you nothing to ignore