Just finished reading the novel and
When you analyze Bear and Cho’s dynamic, it’s not that they don't love each other it’s that their way of expressing that love creates a painful — 🔥
Like Bear often falls into the trap of believing that the most profound way to say "I love you" is to secure the future. By burying himself in work, he feels he is building a fortress around their relationship but in the process, he accidentally locks his partner out.
While Cho Simply needs the presence. For Cho, security isn't found in grand gestures or long-term stability; it's found in the "here and now"—the eye contact, the undivided attention, and the feeling of being prioritized.
The tragedy is that both are trying to protect the relationship, just using completely opposite tools to do it.
That's why COMMUNICATION IS NEEDED IN RELATIONSHIP!!!
This happens because each assumes the other sees the world through their own lens. Bear likely thinks, "I'm doing this for us," and gets frustrated that his sacrifices aren't being seen while Cho thinks, "If he loved me, he would choose me over the work," and feels invisible.
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@loonavik oh I've playing with this household since last year. they live in a huge coastal house that I personally really like, it's very AU. although, I still made Viktor a mage in a very modern witchcraft way. I'd recommend, it's like making a visual fanfiction.
oh so you're useless. what happened to home is the first school? my mother works with 3 year olds and if the child is still in diapers the parent must come and change it because is not the teacher's fucking job. your child goes to school to learn not to be potty trained.
@beIovederen It just grows into an obsession, literally everyone would tell me I looked sick or like a child because I had no curves. But I just liked how it felt to see yourself getting smaller, is something I can't really explain. But you never feel smaller enough.