absolutely cant stand when ppl say being nice/kind gets you nowhere. it’s not meant to do anything for u bc not everything is transactional. be kind bc you want to be.
Maturity is seeing someone's lack of effort as their lack of interest in you, regardless of what they say. Manipulation is when they give you all of the right words, but all of the wrong actions. If they wanted to, they would. Period.
relationships are healthier when the goal is to experience life together & not to try to make the person into who u want them to be or to make them do what u want them to do.