My hot take is that people are actually marrying too late.
All things being equal, you should be married by 22/23.
Na economics dey make all these things take long.
And I have a few reasons.
1. If you are supposed to remain a virgin till marriage (for both sexes), then it is very unrealistic to expect someone who started puberty at 14-16, to wait another 15 years.
2. You are supposed to learn your spouse together in marriage. All your firsts, are supposed to be with your spouse. But when you have had too many relationships, it becomes really really hard to unlearn and relearn with your spouse. You become a collection of patterns and habits formed with different people, and your spouse bears the brunt of all those experiences
3. If you plan to have children, the earlier the better. But in terms of health, and in terms of longetvity. Having your first kid at 35, means that you will be attending their uni graduation at 50+, and if you have multiple kids, you might retire before you are done training the. Meanwhile, if you have your last kid at 35, you're esseentially done training your kids by 50+
So yes, marry early if possible
There is nothing you want to do outside marriage that you cannot do inside it.
my friend doesn’t have savings specifically for “rent”.
2 months before his salary is due, he uses part of the current month salary to pay 😭
he lives in one of the nicest area on the mainland
You'll be obsessed with your powerbank at first. Charging everything constantly.
Then slowly it will hit you, you abandon the powerbank and charge your devices only when necessary.
You'll forget to take your pepper out of the fridge because there's no "NEPA took light" moment to remind you. You remember only when you're about to cook...this time it's rock hard and even thawing takes time 😭 Then you adjust to that too.
Whenever you're heading home, you won't for once wish for light because t's not a prayer anymore. It's just... a given.
Productivity will skyrocket too cos why not. You no longer pressure yourself to complete tasks just to take advantage of the light, you work at your own pace.
24hrs light will reset your entire brain. 😂
In terms of behavioral consistency, the most reliable predictor of future performance, is past performance.
You can’t get a friend or a partner with a bad track record and believe you’re special so it can’t happen to you. It will
my boyfriend is the first person I’ve dated that I want to do (experience) everything with
I feel and get to access more of myself when we’re together than when I’m alone
and I find it easier to be myself, and be with myself, too
Nigeria has a lot of sunlight. You are literally burning cash if you don’t have solar set up at least as a backup system (mine is my primary sys)
For my solar set up in my house, I had to grudgingly do it but once I did, my only question to myself was why i didn’t do it earlier.
My friend recently started a 9-5 and her man has been funding her Chowdeck wallet so that she doesn’t worry about lunch.
You can’t teach this romance thing.🥹