Paul Benjamin

Science based tools for relationships/sex/mindset; but mostly humor here on X.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

Started summer off right… 🔥

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

@CaudilloNuclear 😂😂😂 Coming to take that fools money. 😂

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

@CaudilloNuclear 😂😂😂 Coming to take that fools money. 😂

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

😆 I feel like his response was somewhat reasonable.

[New York Post @nypost]

Cop arrested, fired for allegedly pointing gun at fellow officer who microwaved fish at police station https://t.co/DkE9a4Vx4h

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

I get that. If you can’t leave because of kids and money (which is not a forever thing) you just say you’re moving into the basement (or wherever) and you are getting a girlfriend.

Now I know situations are complex and more nuanced then that, but guys would realize how much power they actually have when they decide to take it.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

It’s not that women who do this don’t deserve to be cheated on. It’s just why do that at all if you can leave? Just a thought.

[Nuclear Caudillo🇺🇸🇩🇴 @CaudilloNuclear]

She has first crack at your libido, not sole custody of it.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

@PaulBnchONumbrz Sometimes this is true and sometimes it isn’t. You gotta read the girl.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

Today I broke down the impossible paradox women face today: men who expect a low body count, yet simultaneously demand intimacy before the third date.

How can both men and women navigate it without falling into the trap of modern dating resentment?

Video link in thread

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

What do I mean by seduction skills? This is what I mean…

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

You would have to follow me on YouTube and get in community to get a sense of what I mean, but I’ll try to clarify. No seduction is not just “normal shit a guy should have from being social in his 20’s.” And no it’s not being manipulative or deceptive.

Seduction skills (simple definition) are the social and psychological competencies involved in creating attraction.

What that entails is understanding how women think and respond sexually from a general sense down to the individual woman. Getting a good behavioral profile and read (empathy). And then elevating her emotional and sexual state through your communication and interaction with her while conveying your own desirability. And then leading her through trust built through conveying competence.

Historically men are bad at this, and are completely unaware that they are bad at it. So their romantic prospects (or lack of) are mostly through things that are out of their control. And those who are aware can tell based on how they talk about women, relationships, and sex.

There are specific skills one can train to get better at this. This rarely happens through accidental social development. It has to be intentional.

Pop into my community or tune in to our show “the game room” Wednesday evening to learn more if you’d like.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

You would have to follow me on YouTube and get in community to get a sense of what I mean, but I’ll try to clarify. No seduction is not just “normal shit a guy should have from being social in his 20’s.” And no it’s not being manipulative or deceptive.

Seduction skills (simple definition) are the social and psychological competencies involved in creating attraction.

What that entails is understanding how women think and respond sexually from a general sense down to the individual woman. Getting a good behavioral profile and read (empathy). And then elevating her emotional and sexual state through your communication and interaction with her while conveying your own desirability. And then leading her through trust built through conveying competence.

Historically men are bad at this, and are completely unaware that they are bad at it. So their romantic prospects (or lack of) are mostly through things that are out of their control. And those who are aware can tell based on how they talk about women, relationships, and sex.

There are specific skills one can train to get better at this. This rarely happens through accidental social development. It has to be intentional.

Pop into my community or tune in to our show “the game room” Wednesday evening to learn more if you’d like.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

Attraction involves a number of factors, “chemistry” is one of them. But there is too much magical thinking around things that people don’t understand like chemistry, and there is an over emphasis on things we can’t control (like height for example). And that makes for a false narrative and magical thinking around attraction.

When reality is that all these things are framed by one’s mind which is influenced by “game” and seduction skills. All of it.

It’s the number one thing a guy can both control and improve to have better outcomes in the sexual marketplace. So guys would do much better if they emphasized game and seduction, and SMV maxed as a compliment

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

As it turns out, this might be a mate strategy. Doing more research and I’ll get back to you.

[Desiree @DesireeAmerica4]

Mary Kay Letourneau.

​In 1996, she was a 34-year-old married mother of four. He was a 12-year-old boy in her sixth-grade class.

​She stole his youth, went to prison, and married him the moment it was legally possible.

​To this day, you see people in the replies defending it. They point to the marriage. They point to the kids they had together. They say "well, it lasted."
​Now, reverse the genders.

​If a 34-year-old male teacher did this to a 12-year-old girl, he’s a monster. He never sees the light of day. There is no nuance. There is no debate.

​But because she was a woman, the narrative got soft.

​It locked him into a reality he was too young to ever opt out of.

​Female teachers abusing their positions of power isn't a new trend. They have been doing this for a very long time.

​It only feels more prevalent today because social media exposes every single one of them in real-time. Back then, it was swept under the rug or packaged as a "complicated love story." Today, the curtain is pulled back.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

https://t.co/Czb4I5Q2tq

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

@CaudilloNuclear Nice work!

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

@Firy_X_Wolf78 That’s a good find. I wonder why they haven’t been replicating and updating that one; but I think we know why.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

I don’t know what it is for men but we know that for women the age is 11.

Oh wait, not all women would hook up with under age boys, but some would?

Exactly.

[Kam @PatsKam]

I genuinely am concerned on how young of a female men would date if it were legal. 😭

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

For real tho

[the_ceo @the_ceo99]

Men, imagine your wife telling people:

"He chased me for years. I never responded to him, rejected him multiple times, but as I got older, I decided to give him a chance, and here we are getting married".

And you're sitting there, smiling like a fool.

Never let that become you.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

Next time you are dating a girl who insists that all her male orbiters are friends, show this to her.

These guys were all committing friendship fraud; LARPing as her friend when they secretly want to fuck her.

If guys were the ones doing the kissing, you would be seeing WAAAY different reactions.

[Sérgio Santos @ZAMENZA]

Mulheres fizeram um experimento viral de "beijar de repente o seu melhor amigo" para provar se amizade entre homem e mulher existe ou não...

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

You need to rethink how you post Kam.

Every week and sometimes twice per week there is a new case of a teacher getting caught grooming and SAing a minor. But not all women do this, and some mom’s with teenage boys even fight against it.

Well not just some, but many of us men do not condone getting with underage girls, and some of us fight against it. I have done YouTube videos on why guys over the age of 25 shouldn’t get with a woman under 21 using brain science to illustrate the damage early sexual activity and grooming can cause a young girl with a still developing brain.

I coach men on how to improve their dating life, and relationship and sexual skills, and I encourage my clients to keep it with adult women; and I would fire any client breaking the law and grooming underage girls. And in the 8 years of my practice and 1000’s of men, I haven’t had to fire ONE client for this because most men simply aren’t trying to fuck kids.

So don’t make posts saying that all
men would basically get with underage girls if they could because it’s insulting, makes you look silly, and it’s just not true.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

You need to rethink how you post Kam.

Every week and sometimes twice per week there is a new case of a teacher getting caught grooming and SAing a minor. But not all women do this, and some mom’s with teenage boys even fight against it.

Well not just some, but many of us men do not condone getting with underage girls, and some of us fight against it. I have done YouTube videos on why guys over the age of 25 shouldn’t get with a woman under 21 using brain science to illustrate the damage early sexual activity and grooming can cause a young girl with a still developing brain.

I coach men on how to improve their dating life, and relationship and sexual skills, and I encourage my clients to keep it with adult women; and I would fire any client breaking the law and grooming underage girls. And in the 8 years of my practice and 1000’s of men, I haven’t had to fire ONE client for this because most men simply aren’t trying to fuck kids.

So don’t make posts saying that all
men would basically get with underage girls if they could because it’s insulting, makes you look silly, and it’s just not true.

[Paul Benjamin @apxmindset]

My excuse is my face is just weird. 😆

[Rian Stone | Softbone, hard boiled dystopia @Rianstone]

When you want to show off how good you look but you're insecure about how you look so you make a weird face to excuse how you look