I texted my husband at 10am that I received bad news about my father’s health and within 15 mins he was at my office, had already called my assistant to clear my calendar (before I could even walk to her office) and put me in the car to go to the hospital. He sat with me for 8 hours in an uncomfortable chair, he lost his entire work day including a court appearance, made sure my mom and I stayed hydrated (important), asked questions to doctors that I couldn’t think of, and never once complained.
I am sure there are millions of partners who have done the same in a loved one’s time of need but in my line of work it is easy to forget what love truly looks like.
If they want to they will.
The Best Wife
Ibn Rajab رحمه الله said:
The best wife is the gentle, tender, clean, pious one who helps her husband in difficult times and does not do anything against her husband in difficult times.
semoga diberi syurga tertinggi sbg ganjaran buat Farah Fakhira.😞😞😞
hilang emak dalam usia yg muda, kemudian diuji dgn perceraian, kemudian berkahwin lain, diuji dgn lama menanti zuriat, bila diberi rezeki zuriat dlm rahim, suami pula dijemput Tuhan.
can't imagine her pain.😞
You deserve someone yang buat you senyum setiap hari, bukan yang asyik lukakan hati, buat you menangis, marah, atau rasa tak cukup. You layak untuk rasa bahagia.
Marriage is meant to be a peaceful existence – not superiority or control, but mutual cover, protection, and beauty. Like garments (libās), spouses should shield, comfort, and adorn each other through highs and lows. Expect humanity, not perfection.
‘They are your garments and you are their garments’ (Quran 2:187).
Kita sebenarnya bukan tak terasa, cuma kita yang memilih untuk diam. Sometimes, kita lebih jaga hati dan perasaan orang lain dari perasaan sendiri itu pun still orang tak nampak.
Kadang bila you tengok orang lain dah ada kerja stabil, gaji besar, title pun tinggi, you mula rasa left out.
Especially bila you tengah struggle nak dapat kerja, atau baru je nak start kerja basic-basic dulu.
Tapi apa yang i nak cakap..
“Suami masuk dapur bukan jatuh ego, tapi naikkan nilai dalam hati isteri.”
Ramai suami anggap dapur tu ‘kawasan isteri’ je.
Tapi sebenarnya… bila suami masuk dapur walaupun sekadar tolong basuh sayur — isteri akan rasa dihargai, disayangi dan tak bersendirian.
Cari someone yang betul-betul take note of the little things about you—especially things related to your mental health, trauma, emotions, and fears. Sebab not everyone listens to understand, but the right one will listen to learn you.
It hurts when people say 'Kau kuat, abah kau dh didik kau untk jadi kuat', but in reality, I'm fragile. Abah didik aq untk jadi kuat dalam hidup tapi dia lupa nk didik aq hidup tanpa dia 💔
“Dia suami yang baik. Tapi dia diam-diam tanggung derita…”
Lumrah seorang lelaki…
Bila sakit, dia diam.
Bila kecewa, dia pendam.
Bila ada masalah “dalam hubungan”, dia terus rasa gagal sebagai suami.
Lelaki macam ni bukan tak sayang isteri.
Tapi dia malu.
Just now ada unmarried young muslim couple in front of me. Si laki tu h**** ke apa duk sibuk kiss² pipi awek dia then the girl noticed me & said to her bf that I saw what he did. Dik, kalo dh gatai sgt, kawin cpt² tapi kena igt, life after kawin & b4 kawin lain ye 😌