"My family never left the South for the Great Migration. I grew up 10 miles from a plantation.
On one side of my family, I am one generation removed from sharecropping. One of my parents was the first generation not to grow up in the fields."
Durand Bernarr had the Joe Budden podcast’s full attention and laughter when educating them on the difference between a heterosexual man & a straight man.
The irony is, families scapegoat their most empathetic member. The one who feels everyone's pain becomes the repository for everyone's problems. It's unpaid emotional labour from which you are entitled to resign.
The narrative that you’re not supposed to care about people’s perceptions of you is not based in reality. To be in community you literally have to address how you’re being perceived because how you are perceived directly effects how you’re treated
JT describing gendered colorism.
Gendered colorism is why cishet black men prioritize light skinned women.
It’s why gay black tops prioritize light skinned men.
It’s why masc black lesbians, studs, & transmen prioritize light skin partners.
If they can’t get a “light skin” they often at least want some lighter than themselves in comparison.
Masc & fem are racially-coded & color-coded concepts with material implications all across social & political life
Moonlight. Moonlight shows how many queer black people don’t become who they are, they become who they had to be to survive. And how healing begins when someone finally sees the person underneath the armor.
It’s not just a queer film. It’s a film about the cost of hiding.
Narcissists treat differences like threats.
A narcissist’s ego is built on sameness and control — people who think like them feel predictable, manageable, and non-threatening.
But someone with a noticeably different thought process disrupts their inner equilibrium. 🧵
There's a documentary on Netflix about these pioneers titled "A Band Called Death" I urge all fans of music history to watch. They had the opportunity to sign a major record deal but they wouldn't change their name. Fast forward 10 years and heavy, aggressive nihilistic punk/metal was a multimillion dollar industry.