Army | Bonoh | ShawtyBoss | MagentaBabe ~ I'm just here to love bossnoeul to the best of my abilities while trying to be respectful of other's opinions 🫶🏾
Hi. I was introduced to BLs in 2019 with Love by chance and was in the bl world for a while after that. But then life happened and I stopped watching series in general. September this year, I saw an edit of wedding plan and I thought it looked cute.
#BossNoeul#BoNoh#PhayuRain
I think I'll do it away from this app. I'll just go back to tiktok and lurk on here sometimes but won't say anything anymore, since that is no longer welcome.
Lol I came back to chaos on the tl. I'll just say this, I was called stupid and dumb more than once for having a different opinion. "Be kind with your words" but you couldn't do the same when it was something you didn't agree with. Its the other way around and now it's hostile?
this fandom but when I tried to voice out an opinion that was different from the vast majority, I was shut down. This is not me claiming to be a victim, I recognise my faults in this mess, but these are my feelings. I'll forever support bossnoeul but
When you enter someones home you do it politely, you greet before coming in, you dont just barge in. Same thing with understanding cultures, when you follow an international artist, you need to acknowledge their cultures, their way of living, how fandom life works there. When you bring your ideology to the point of ridiculing something thats already ingrained in the society of said artist you follow without first trying to learn the system, thats colonizer mindset. Its different when you know nothing and you ask politely vs just arguing about smth from the get go. Local fans will educate you if you approach them respectfully. It is also okay to change opinions once you learn new information.
@Ruth_0618 @Ckgirl30@Goknna had autonomy over where, how and for what cause they want to spend their money. All that was done was disregarding a project that ma chen himself gave an okay, meaning n was probably aware of it as well. Idk it all just seemed like people wanted to fight just for the sake of it
@Ruth_0618 @Ckgirl30@Goknna I feel like I'm just going to be repeating myself so I'll just say this. I agree that the fandom should've been consulted before going through with this. But at the end of the day, no one was forced to donate. Like that's the important thing at the end of the day, each fan still+
@baekseri_@MariaGG55666386 Well I'm not talking about what was done in the past, I'm taking about this particular instance. Me being new here doesn't mean I don't get to have an opinion?
@baekseri_@MariaGG55666386 I voiced my concerns too 😭 but I also understand that culture differs and I shouldn't judge based on that. I'm in support of us having an inter fans fanbase to avoid things like this in the future, I'm just saying inter fans are not blameless in this
@baekseri_@MariaGG55666386 My apologies I didn't mean you as in singular. I mean that I saw a lot of people who disagreed with the project calling it that, I meant you as in plural as a collective
@ckm_wifey@Ckgirl30@Goknna I agree blaming each other won't fix it. I just don't want something like this to repeat itself in the future. Causing a divide in the fandom is not ideal, we may have differing opinions but we're all here for noeul after all
@Goknna@ckm_wifey@Ckgirl30 Yes of course I remember. But correct me if I'm wrong, were we informed before hand that the project would be a mic? Like was that decided unanimously by the fandom? Either way that's not the point I'm trying to make, I just hope this whole thing doesn't repeat itself in future
@Ruth_0618 @Ckgirl30@Goknna want to participate or not. Idk making it into an inter fans vs thai fans discourse was wrong when nothing in the original project indicated that. There are better ways to voice concerns with turning it into "I'm right and you're wrong" just cause of clashes of interests
@Ruth_0618 @Ckgirl30@Goknna People were calling the project pointless, worthless, useless etc because they didn't understand the meaning behind it. While I'm not faulting them for that, inter fans DID make it an issue. After the cultural meaning was explained, its simply a matter of you to decide if you +
@Goknna@Ckgirl30 I hundred percent agree with this. Maybe there should be be an inter fans fanbase to help bridge the gap for communication. But people were complaining about the gift though, and calling it pointless and worthless and I don't agree with that
@ckm_wifey@Ckgirl30@Goknna of the fandom's inputs before going planning such projects. But the problem here is a lot of inter fans just lashing out and calling it stupid and useless, not even trying to understand the meaning behind it. The admin is human too after all, the words we use matter
@ckm_wifey@Ckgirl30@Goknna Very few fan projects are actually brought up to the fandom before its finalised unfortunately. Even both mic projects we were just told that we should donate for a mic and that's basically it. I understand where you're coming from and I hope moving forward we actually have more+