Arsa

i’m here mostly to reflect — sometimes to connect.

[Arsa @arsafira_]

A thread to remind myself.

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Everything that i feel tired for is a privilege

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Udah pernah belom, lo kerja full-time, senin-minggu, dengan deadline dan performance review 3-5x sehari?

Cobain ngurus anak MPASI 🤝

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@comstelation Pempek Alik, Tanjung Duren

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Talk to who

[✧ @cessonmute]

VERY UNPOPULAR OPINION: it’s nearly IMPOSSIBLE for a woman with children to work 40+ hours a week, run a household, cook, care for her kids (and often her partner), and still protect her own physical and mental health. that’s why so many women feel like they’re constantly on the edge of burnout.

it’s a system built for failure, yet society expects women to excel in every role without complaint. the pressure is overwhelming. the support is minimal. women are expected to be everything, provider, caregiver, homemaker, emotional anchor... without ever being asked, “are you okay?” and when they fall behind, they’re made to feel like they’re not trying hard enough. like they’re failing at work. failing at motherhood. failing at life.

it’s not that women lack strength or ability. it’s that the structure is designed to drain them. the idea that women should “do it all” and do it flawlessly is unrealistic, damaging, and cruel. rest becomes a privilege. self care becomes selfish. mental health becomes an afterthought. and then people wonder why so many women are exhausted.

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@bayuamus Nggak tangible, tp team morale terasa naik. Jg ada komentar2 verbal dr team yg menyampaikan rasa syukur atas happy hour yg konsisten digelar walau di tengah huru hara kerjaan, jd ada yang bs “being look forward to”. Saya sudah resign (career break), tp activitynya ttp lanjut :)

[Arsa @arsafira_]

@bayuamus Iya saya juga gitu! Kalo saya 2minggu sekali. Kami hilangnya “happy hour” haha. Pernah melukis tote bag bersama, menghias cookies bersama, main kartu deep talk, dll. Tapi durasi bener2 cuma 1 jam - i think fair time investment to refresh the team in every 2 weeks. Host bergilir.

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Salted honey latte enak bgt 🥺🥺🥺

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I’m not against the idea and I agree that young kids needs clean home as a non-negotiable because they basically put everything in their mouth but excuse me, do you remember how much effort and time it takes to keep things clean when you have baby/toddler? 😂

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And then some people also say, “I don’t judge you if you have little ones and your house is messy. It is supposed to look messy. But I WILL judge you if your house is dirty. How can you have kids and a dirty home? Messy is not the same as dirty.”

[𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐥 @homemakinghunny]

I hate when people say “housework can wait. Enjoy your kids while they’re little.”

You either haven’t had children or don’t remember what it’s like because my kids need clean clothing which requires washing, folding and putting away laundry, 3 meals a day not to mention snacks which requires planning, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, dishes. My baby’s highchair needs wiped down 3x a day and swept up after. Baby also puts everything in her mouth so the floors need cleaned throughout the day. The bathtub needs to cleaned for the kids to have baths, the toilet needs to be cleaned for the 3 year old who touches it while she’s climbing up onto it plus just generally it needs to be cleaned.

This is the most unrealistic thing to say to a mother of young kids. Also, I have no desire to live in a dirty cluttered messy house.

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This is @hojichagirl 😂😂😂

[🦢 @meishato]

Guys have you ever been in a workplace where all the original coworkers have left so now you’re in season 5 with all these new characters

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sometimes you don’t process emotions on the spot, and it got delayed, and it hits while you’re alone, you break and shatter

[astw @astwsp]

Pernah denger ceramah seorang Muslim scholar dari UK yang membahas rasionalisasi perintah hijab dgn sudut pandang yg menurut gue jauh lebih presisi secara teologis.
He said that it’s clear bahwa tujuan utama hijab bkn untuk membantu laki2 mengontrol hawa nafsunya.

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I sometimes paused and think what if this is the last time I speak to someone before they/I die; would I be okay to be remembered this way?

Both in their eyes and in my own eyes

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Anyone, business idea: self-cleaning & sterilizing baby/toddler high chair, please

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Grief can look like nursing your baby in the midnight and remember you used to snuggle your late father whenever you cant sleep at midnight. I love you Pa, I hope you sleep peacefully.

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Children hitting milestones? Be in the healthy weight gain curve? Clean, safe space to play? Consistent nap & feeding schedule? Emotional bonding, just the right amount — not too clingy but you need to be their first preference?

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I wonder what are the metrics of being a good mother? Or at least, an okay one? That can got 3 out of 5 in the motherhood performance review?