The narcissist’s end goal isn’t just to make their target look bad, it’s to switch moral places with them.
They want to be seen the way they see their target. And they want their target to be seen as them.
That’s the whole operation. Their MO. Not just damage your reputation — occupy your position. Walk away wearing your innocence while you’re left holding their guilt.
The smear campaign is meant to be an identity swap.
In a relationship, whenever a man wants to end it, he starts mentally torturing you. He changes his behavior and treats you so badly that you become emotionally and mentally exhausted. Then he goes around crying in front of other people, saying, 'She left me.'
That's how the male psyche works.
They're all the same..
One thing nobody warns you about:
A narcissist doesn’t always destroy your confidence directly.
Sometimes they slowly convince you that your feelings are the problem.
You stop expressing yourself because every conversation turns into defending why you’re upset.
Daily reminder:
If they wanna talk to you, they will. If they wanna be with you, they will. If they wanna make things work, they will. Don't let things be one sided. It's not healthy, and it's not fair to you.
realizing how much that person must have hated my guts to treat me how they did and wondering why they couldn’t just let me go instead of putting us through all that stress for no reason
@Ryan_Daigler That’s why I stayed thru his psychological abuse…I too abused him & I understood why he would treat me certain ways. So I tried to be better, but I’m only human. He pushed & pushed until I realized I could control my reactions. Now he’s lost control & has made me pay for it.
People typically don’t “go crazy” or have nervous breakdowns for no reason. The narrative of someone "going crazy" is often a tool used by abusers to deflect accountability and discredit their victim. What appears to be erratic behavior is usually a trauma response—a culmination of long-term psychological manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse.
The victim may seem "unreasonable" or "unstable" because their nervous system is overwhelmed, often swinging between fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses. Abusers exploit this, painting the victim as the problem to maintain their control and avoid scrutiny. It's a cruel tactic that isolates the victim further and obscures the true cause of their distress. Recognizing this dynamic is crucial for understanding the reality of psychological abuse and offering genuine support. 🧵
Growing up with an emotionally immature and narcissistic mum and the emotionally absent father combo is the biggest mind fuck ever. That trauma is generational.