I had a realization a few years ago that I don't need to figure out why this person is doing a certain behavior I dislike. All that matters is I know I don't like the behavior and I can leave
most men are actually COWARDŠ when it comes to confronting their male friends about mistreating women. they value MALE APPROVAL more than women's SAFETY
@bukowskiasagirl Freud called it psychic impotence. The man builds the perfect version of himself to attract her, she falls for that version, and then the performance becomes a life sentence. The resentment that follows wasn't abt her. She just had the misfortune of believing the man he presented