Wow, 500 of you cool humans have come around this lil birdie sphere to follow since I joined in June & I just want to say, thank you. I use this space for trauma healing. CSA, SA, & church abuse are what you’ll find me posting on most often. Sometimes chronic illness …
I debated contacting my mom who I am estranged from for the few year, quickly remembered the countless times in the past that I’ve done that & landed on…nope! If she wants a relationship, it’ll always be on her to mend what she broke!
To see a person who supposedly cares about you defend someone who has traumatized you is crazy-making. It’s normalizing toxic behavior while telling the hurt person their pain isn’t real. You’re not crazy. You’re trying to heal among crazy-makers.
When I was stripping in atlantic city, the main customers were bachelor parties. "Average" men who were about to get married and brought their "average" friends, many of whom were already married. Many customers were cops/state troopers, professors, men that worked in tech (1/?)
My husband left the church with me, began deconstructing, & is finally addressing his mental health for the first time in his 43 years. Silence brought our marriage only apathy & left him alone in his misogyny, my voice brought light to our marriage & healing to him.
For the sake of your mental and physical health, stop silencing yourself with your partner/closest people. Saying what needs to be said and expressing yourself authentically with your closest people is a baseline need. And if they can’t handle it, they’re not your closest people.
Staying alive when everything in your brain is telling you to give up and that you’re not needed in this world, takes a strength some will never understand. So if you won that war with your mind today - or any day - I’m proud of you. This world is better off with you here.
When a person starts healing after living in survival mode, they have a deep desire for honesty & authenticity. They’ve had to fight for their ability to think clearly & know who they are. It’s been quite costly. They’re not willing to engage with those who won’t respect that.
The Quiet on Set documentary is a WILD watch! So many of our favorite 2000’s shows had horrors happening behind the scenes. The trauma work so many child actors are not getting is heartbreaking 💔
There are no easily accessible therapists to work with kids on any lgbtqia issue, but especially gender dysmorphia. Mental health support shouldn’t start as an adult, it should be easily accessible from childhood on.