no way niggas are calling this allo pandering π if you think enacting romance and sex is the only way to qualify as a community member then YOU are the one reenforcing harmful status quo bullshit. it's "uplift averse aspecs" until we voice unconventional desires. bffr
happy pride month to aroaces who feel ZERO romantic or sexual attraction and identify as gay/lesbian/mspec via other attractions (alterous, sensual, platonic, aesthetic, etc)
happy pride month to aroaces who feel ZERO romantic or sexual attraction and identify as gay/lesbian/mspec via other attractions (alterous, sensual, platonic, aesthetic, etc)
@hmuhollyzs if fighting allonormativity is your concern then lets focus on bringing visibility to lesser known aspecs identities like aplatonic, asensual, anaesthetic, etc
cuz ur walking in lock step with status quo by talkin down on aroaces. its not pandering to voice unconventional desires
@hmuhollyzs lmaooo! ironic cuz its quite amatonormative to belittle nonrose attractions & unconventional relationships. aces don't get to speak for AROaces. these words help ppl articulate their feelings & boundaries while affirming aroace identity. just look at the responses from aroaces
speaking of rep, i wanna see more asexuals that are sex averse and sensual favorable. i wanna see the difficulty of navigating those boundaries be explored in depth. namely how some tend to avoid touch all together bc it's assumed to be foreplay rather than the main event
@Cantarella_719 not bad at all. i live for angst and relating to characters with similar struggles. word on tiktok is that ace rep is more angsty when it comes to hardback books, but i can't confirm cuz i'm mostly into digital media
@handonshipper all good. it can get complicated since there tends to be overlap. i heard that allos often struggle differentiating bc they typically feel them all at once? not sure if that's accurate but it's certainly different for some aspecs
@DarkWebHandyman sure! no problem. by sensual i mean general physical closeness. an ace and their partner doing stuff like cuddling, massaging, dancing, haircare, bathing, to name a few. some definitions of sensual include voice too, probably referring to words of affirmation
@stxriuu alterous - a type of emotional attraction defined by a desire for emotional closeness bc neither romantic or platonic attraction is accurate
sensual - a type of physical attraction defined by a desire for sensual touch/physical closeness (cuddling, massage, handholding etc)
@CalledPal interesting. i'm used to ppl knowing that one and not the others. no biggie! it's a type of physical attraction that's characterized by a warm swell in the chest, typically described as admirating someone like a painting. not to be confused with sexual since arousal isn't at play