More than the obligatory love, no one talks about the trauma of watching an abusive parent "change" so you're left looking crazy and stuck on some "thing" that happened in the past
Much love, cyn ❤️
The stories of mother to daughter abuse that are being shared as a result of this piece is the reason I hate those “give grace to your mother” tweets. Mothers are usually their daughter’s first abusers and we need to talk about this more. It’s a cycle that needs to end!
As I get older, I’ve realized that one of the most exhausting feelings isn’t heartbreak, it’s uncertainty.
It’s constantly wondering where you stand with people. Questioning whether you’re important to them. Overanalyzing changes in their behavior. Trying to figure out if you’re asking for too much or if you’re simply asking the wrong people.
I genuinely hope we all experience relationships, friendships, and opportunities where we’re never made to feel like we have to earn our place. Where communication is clear, effort is mutual, and love isn’t measured by how much confusion we’re willing to tolerate.
I think peace is being able to go to bed without questioning who values you, because the people who do make it obvious.
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I intentionally burn bridges because I believe wholeheartedly in my ability to succeed no matter what, and I’m never putting myself in a position to need anyone who harmed me.
A woman does not expire at 30 just like the Patriarchy system wants them to feel, in this new age a woman getting older means getting more dangerous,more powerful and more magnetic.
The Patriarchy society wants you to panic about aging so that you can fall in the hands of mediocre men and accept mediocre treatments from Men out of fear but you know what?, you’re a fine wine not a carton of milk.
Your PRIME IS WHENEVER YOU DECIDES IT, DONT FALL FOR THE AGE ILLUSION SET BY MEN.
A moving woman (me) will have it all. The career that fulfills her. The love that steadies her. The properties in her name. The passport full of stamps. 🤞
Suddenly everybody on Twitter loves people with Down Syndrome so much and that couple who aborted their DS baby are devils.
All of you condemning them:
How many DS children have you raised?
How many DS adults are you friends with / hang out with?
How many DS people do you date?
We all know the answer to these questions.
99% of the people sitting on their moral high horse neither care for people with Down Syndrome nor do they include them in their lives in any way.
They have never gone to any orphanage to consider adopting a child with DS.
They would never consider seriously being friends with or spending time with a person with DS.
Some of them are even repulsed by people with DS but want to pretend they are saints when it’s time to condemn that couple.
Why would any loving mother choose that fate for her child?
Do you think mothers of children with DS are happy seeing their children being excluded and rejected, and never being able to live a full independent life?
Let alone the fact that whenever a family with a disabled child breaks up, 9 times out of 10 the father abandons the mother with the disabled child and the woman becomes a lifelong hostage unable to live life because she has been enslaved to the endless care of her disabled child.
On top of that she spends her entire life worrying who will care for her child after she dies and because of this worry some old women have even killed their disabled child and killed tnemselves out of despair and worry of what will happen to their child.
So what was the point?
After listening to wicked people at the time of pregnancy and not aborting, spending a lifetime caring for the child without respite, only to end up still killing the child because SURPRISE SURPRISE, none of those people who shamed you to not abort were willing to volunteer to help care for your disabled child to give you a break while you were young, or now that you’re too old and frail to continue.
These people just want to see women as slaves in every unpleasant situation in the world, and as a woman you are the only say and the FINAL say on whether you give birth to a child or not, because when the suffering begins NONE OF THESE PEOPLE WILL EVER SUFFER WITH YOU.
“No matter our religion, tribe, or profession, we Nigerians are being killed, and the Tinubu government has proven that it is incapable of securing the country.”
Again, former President Olusegun Obasanjo charges Nigerians to rise and kick out the incompetent Tinubu govt.✍️
"There can be no keener revelation of a society's soul than the way in which it treats its children"
A country that can’t protect children is a failed state.