Nobody owes you a fight.
I ghost and confront in equal measure, I know when a person gets a kick out of plausible deniability because they love to revel in the hurt they cause then summarily deny it. I choose what to do according to how manipulative they are.
I found out recently that it’s a neurodivergent trauma response to believe if people understood the impact of their actions they’d change their behaviour and it explains a lot.
Having parents who didn’t prepare you for literally anything in life, only to be judged later for being “behind’’ is a frustrating and common experience for a lot of neurodivergent people.
my therapist told me that as an autistic person, i tend to intellectualise my feelings rather than express them; and that my obsession with rationalising emotions, both mine and others', stems from a need to survive situations rather than fully experiencing them.
u not experiencing the worst version of a person isn’t an excuse to downplay their victims. it is so unbelievably irrelevant and a cowardly defense of that person
Normalize saying "I don't think we have the kind of relationship that should make you comfortable enough to say that to me" when someone tries to get too Familiar.
“you don’t owe anyone anything” is for, like, trauma survivors learning to care about themselves for the first time or whatever. it’s not for you when you’re an Awful Friend
If you’re confused about which facial to commit to, always choose microneedling. Microneedling, red light therapy, and Lymphatic Drainage will knock years and tiredness out of your face no exaggeration.
if we aren’t close and you try to do playful meanness with me i will shut it down in a way that humiliates you so profoundly you will never do it again. with anybody
there was a time where i gave people too much grace which is why im very strict with it now. people are grown. they know exactly what they’re doing. fuck a benefit of the doubt if my intuition tells me otherwise!
Literally the only thing I’ll ever take accountability for. I stayed longer than I should have & it was my fault for tryna see the good in somebody who kept showing me how easy it was for them to switch & hurt me over any lil thing.