someone once told me “accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others” and that shit is real.
I realized that when you’re a little too understanding, people slowly start becoming a little too comfortable overlooking your feelings. The more grace you give without boundaries, the easier it becomes for others to take your kindness for granted.
normalize saying “unfortunately you’re no longer a safe person for me and I refuse to continually sacrifice my nervous system to make you feel comfortable”
if u offer me a sincere apology & change ur behavior, I'll never bring up our past issues again. But if no apology was given and ur still repeating mistakes, u can't ask me to stop mentioning the past. The "past" is actually the present if u haven't changed.