Dr. Ayoosh

لا يغير الله م بقوم حتى يغيروا ما بأنفسهم

[Weffrey Jellington @jeffwellz]

One of my favorite things about myself is that I can take a hint. You don’t have to say much. I’ll notice whatever you’re implying and move accordingly. Save us both the embarrassment.

[Solyricon @Solyricon]

Dear future husband,
Today sucked. I miss you.

Love
Your future wife
P.S. come home already

[JAY 💞 @Janiee_Jayy]

I'm such a grateful girl.. I like to actually say "thank you" a lot because really "thank youuuuu"

[𝗠𝘂𝗵𝗲𝗲 ♛ @muheediva01]

Airports should have a post office so that you can mail things home instead of throwing them away

[Eva. @Bunny_ngl]

Can Apple use common sense, if my phone is on silent but I set an alarm, WHY DO YOU THINK I WOULD WANT AN ALAAAAAAARM TO BE SILENT.?

[sammm ☆ @onlysammms]

the way my face lights up whenever i watch a romcom is proof that no matter how avoidant i act, i'm still a lover girl at the end of the day

[Dr. Nyarsakwa @Nyarsakwa_]

Who went to med school? 😂😂

[Muna @Munalozy]

To be loved is to show consideration. I will forever bend my rules for someone I love.

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

I hope you get a "tadaaaaa" from Allah in coming week

[Maletšemana @maletsemana]

Someone said you have to dilute each Polygamist episode with two episodes of Sofia the First to stay sane😭😭

[Lisakhanya @lee_Duruwe_]

The Polygamist on Netflix is not a show about a man with many women. It’s a show about what happens to women when they organise their entire lives around one undeserving man.

[Lerato. @baddaysareover]

I’m so glad they started the show by showing us that Jonasi died. #ThePolygamist

[Misheline Mutuzo @Lord_Mutuzo]

“To every girl who said “This is not how I want to live for the rest of my life” and walked away- girlhood is so proud of you”

-Thank you❤️

[Aisha Hamman @AyshaHamman]

In 2018, while working as a community mobiliser on a sexual and reproductive health and rights project in Kano State, we regularly engaged women in rural communities. During one of those sessions, a woman said to us:

“Malama, don Allah, kamar yadda kuke tara mata kuna koya mana abubuwa, don Allah ku dinga tara mazajenmu kuna nuna musu muhimmancin zuwa asibiti da neman magani. Saboda sau da yawa za ki ga muna fama da infection ko sanyi. Idan mun je asibiti an ba mu magani, ana ce mana mu gaya wa mazajenmu su zo su karɓi magani, saboda idan mun warke su ba su warke ba, za su iya sake sa mana cutar. Amma mazajenmu sai su ƙi zuwa asibiti, su ce wai muna tona musu asiri. Wani ma zai iya sakin matarsa saboda ta gaya masa ya je asibiti. Ita kuma idan an sake ta, wani lokacin samun wani mijin yana zama da wahala, saboda ana cewa ba ta iya rufa wa mijinta asiri.”

In translation, she was saying:

“Please, just as you gather women and educate us, we would appreciate it if you also engaged our husbands and taught them the importance of going to the hospital and receiving treatment for sexually transmitted infections. Many times, we suffer from infections and, when we go to the hospital, we are treated and advised to bring our husbands for treatment too, because if we recover while they remain untreated, they may infect us again. But when we ask our husbands to go to the hospital, some become offended and accuse us of exposing their shame. In some cases, a man may even divorce his wife for asking him to seek treatment. A woman divorced under such circumstances may also struggle to remarry because she becomes stigmatised and accused of being unable to conceal her husband’s shame.”

This was in 2018, and in 2026, you are promoting the dangerous idea that a “good wife” is one who hears but pretends not to hear, sees but pretends not to see and remains silent regardless of what her husband does, all in the name of preserving the dignity of marriage.

Who raised you guys to think like this?

Since when did “matar rufin asiri” come to mean a woman who must ignore persistent betrayal, silence herself and protect a grown man from the consequences of his own choices? Do you not realise that protecting the privacy of a marriage is not the same as concealing misconduct or tolerating repeated infidelity or sacrificing one’s dignity, health and peace to preserve a man’s public image.

Islam does not normalise zina or present infidelity as an ordinary male weakness that women must tolerate. It, in contrast, treats sexual immorality as a grave offence. So what makes anyone think it is acceptable to normalise cheating, or gaslight women into enabling wayward partners who behave as though infidelity is their birthright, and then condemn every woman who chooses to walk away because she cannot continue living with a man alleged to be a chronic womaniser?

Why should the responsibility for a man’s discipline, loyalty and sexual conduct be transferred to his wife? Why should she be praised for pretending not to see what threatens her emotional and physical well-being, while he is excused from accountability?

Please do not use this mindset to raise your daughters, whether you have them now or may have them in the future. This thinking is one of the reasons many women are suffering and dying in silence, are repeatedly infected with life-threatening sexually transmitted infections because they are taught that their chastity is synonymous with overlooking their husband’s inadequacies. You’re suggesting women should remain trapped in harmful marriages because society tells them that marriage is “for better or worse” and that a woman’s virtue is measured by how much humiliation, betrayal and danger she can endure without speaking.

A woman who truly loves you and wants the best for you in both worlds would never turn deaf ears or a blind eye to wrongdoing by pretending not to see it.

Ka je ka nema ilimi.

[Big Tee @societyhatestee]

i feel like there is a sleep in me that needs to be slept but each time i sleep i don't sleep that sleep.

[Abbatiee @abbatiee_]

Your husband’s other wife caught him cheating with many women and you want to fight her on his behalf?? 🤡

[PeePee🎀 @peegzy1]

I think we underestimate how difficult it is to find genuine partners.

[Abdul Vibes @ab_chikaire]

You people will drag your online husband and wife drama all over our TL. We are trying to focus on the future of this country, sending Tinubu back to Lagos and restoring dignity to Arewa.

Dan Allah keep it to Instagram and TikTok.

[Sara @piousdeenn]

“you handled it so well”

Me after crying to Allah about it.