As a young man,
Learn to be a loner.
You'll need it later in life, because your friends will later marry their wives and children.
Their priority will be their immediate families and not you.
Learn to go to the bar alone and sit alone to just chill and reflect on your life and the future of your family.
A married man should not be hanging out with too many male friends.
If it's not strictly business or work related, you don't need a crowd.
That's how you survive this world.
A man who keeps too many male friends is exposing himself and will eventually become too vulnerable.
If you feel too lonely and you need company, rise one girl to chill with.
Her feminine nature will calm your nerves and make you feel younger and a little happier.
Other than that, hang out alone, most of the time.
It will prepare you for your 40s and beyond.
End.
A man who is a twin switches places with his twin brother to prank his wife and see how long it takes her to realize that the man sitting next to her isn’t her husband. 😂
1. I will not apologise to you just because I want peace to reign when you are the one who wronged me. I’d rather lose the relationship. If you cannot hold yourself accountable, you are not the person for me.
2. I do not tolerate disrespect. Not even as a joke. Especially not as a joke.
3. If you have a problem with cooking for your partner, I’m not the person for you.
4. You don’t ever have to worry about cooking because it’s one of the things I genuinely enjoy doing. However, this doesn’t negate what I said in number three.
5. Unless you are deep into fitness like me and are posting your gains, you cannot be posting your bum on social media. I’m not a “mature” boyfriend.
6. My obligation is to treat you right and love you softly, genuinely, and intentionally. But if you cannot reciprocate that energy, I’ll leave you.
7. You cannot have a male bestie under my regime.
8. Dates are important to me. I will initiate, plan, and pay for most of them, but you must also initiate, plan, and pay for some dates. I’m a baby boy too.
9. If I tell you that something you did hurt me, don’t tell me it’s not that deep. I will not let you gaslight or manipulate me into questioning my feelings. Don’t dismiss my feelings, ever.
10. Cheating is a deal-breaker. I will not forgive you for it.
11. Access to phones is important to me. This doesn’t mean I’m interested in going through your phone, but if you suddenly start guarding it around me, I’ll assume you’re hiding something.
12. I don’t want to hear about what your ex did for you. If you keep bringing him or your exes up unnecessarily, I will leave you.
13. I like sex, and I’m considerate. I also understand that I don’t own your body. However, if my sexual needs are consistently neglected, I’ll leave you.
14. Even when you are angry, talk to me softly. We can disagree without being cruel to each other. Don’t raise your voice at me, talk to me like a decent adult.
15. If you need a break from the relationship, please don’t come back.
16. Don’t use a breakup as a threat, a weapon, or a joke whenever we have a minor misunderstanding. If you tell me you want to end the relationship, I will respect your decision, and there will be no coming back from it.
Dating is for women and women's ego.
The whole dating industry was crafted solely to make women happy and has no benefit for the man.
~woman spits fire.
Who is this woman fgs,
she is always spitting bitter truths.
The brotherhood owes you one.
If men were marrying for sex, every prostitute would be married.
Men can get sex without a wedding, without bills, and without having to feed and take care of a woman.
Sex is not why a serious man marries. He marries for a home, children, loyalty, peace, and a woman he can build with.
That is why the men who still want marriage are not looking for a body. They are looking for character.
Marriage is a different ball game. Love is not enough reason to marry someone.
There are people who genuinely love themselves but can’t live together as husband and wife. What could be wrong? They lack the understanding of what being married is.
Marriage is beyond what many people think it is.
Marriage is commitment, reassurance, determination, partnership, companionship, understanding, etc.
Marriage can’t work if both of you are not heading in one direction.
The opinion people hate hearing is simple: men aren’t naturally distant or cold, but they’re responding to a world that punishes vulnerability.
The problem isn’t men themselves, it’s the expectations society, women, and even other men heap on them.
When you say men suffer silently because they’ve been taught to suppress feelings, some people feel accused, uncomfortable, or threatened, because it exposes their own role in creating that pressure.
I kept my ex’s number after we broke up.
No contact. Just had it.
One day I texted him, just to say I was thinking about him and hoped he was okay. He didn’t respond.
I texted again months later. Same thing.
Then again. And again.
I told myself I was just checking in, that maybe he was struggling, that maybe one day he’d need to know someone remembered him.
People told me to move on, but I thought persistence meant caring.
I thought the silence was something I needed to break.
When a woman truly loves you, she’ll fix her attitude, her tone, her habits... anything that risks losing you.
If she’s treating you like garbage and expecting you to just take it, she doesn’t respect you. And without respect, love is a lie.
A woman who values having you in her life will check herself because the thought of losing you actually keeps her up at night.
A woman knows exactly what she’s doing. If she isn’t willing to adjust for you, it means she doesn’t think you have the balls to leave. Prove her wrong.
One thing I've noticed about people:
Most don't miss you.
They miss the version of you that benefited them.
The one who replied instantly. The one who always showed up. The one who listened. The one who helped. Remove those things and many relationships quietly disappear. The painful part? We've probably done the same thing to someone else.
Humans are strange.
We want loyalty but choose convenience. We want understanding but rarely listen. We want to be remembered while forgetting those who once mattered to us.
Maybe growing up is realizing that not everyone who enters your life is meant to stay.
And not everyone who leaves was meant to be kept.
Just a thought.