This is my greatest fear. I know what I am capable of achieving, and I have seen people around me who are extremely talented, brilliant and had so much potential, yet they did not live up to their expectations.
If only they had taken life a little bit more seriously and were intentional about what they did every day, they’d have had a better life.
I don’t want to look back one day realising I could have been better if only I pushed harder. My philosophy in life is to sieze every moment like it’s the only shot I’ll ever have and make the most of it so that if I ever have to look back, given similar conditions, there should be really nothing within my power I could have done better.
You see proximity?
Yes, proximity. That's all it takes for your wife or girlfriend to do something contrary to your marital vows or promises. And vice versa.
While factors like status and looks compel attraction, proximity operationalises it. It sets it in motion.
In proximity, conversations happen. Gestures are made. Assistance is rendered. Compliments flow. Familiarity grows. And with this, what once existed as a mere inkling magnifies into feeling and desire.
This is why your girlfriend gets into the university and suddenly becomes "busy" all the time. She is crushing on someone, talking to someone with whom she now shares proximity.
Because attraction is not destiny. It is simply two people, in the same place, at the same time, finding each other sufficiently safe to risk vulnerability. Human beings are always looking to take that risk. Emotion merely supplies the excuse.
But what is the message in all of this?
The message is simple and straightforward: principles are easy when proximity is absent.
"I trust my woman."
"I don't check my woman's phone."
"She can have as many male friends as she likes."
These convictions are often made in the comfort of distance, before life introduces that co-worker, classmate, business partner, a neighbour, gym instructor, or the FRIENDLY superior at Work.
The real threat to a relationship is rarely attraction in isolation. Attraction is common. Proximity is what gives attraction the opportunity to negotiate with conscience.
This is why wise men do not merely manage feelings; they manage circumstances.
Because loyalty is easier maintained at a distance than it is tested in constant proximity.
Check that f*cking phone early enough. Tell her you see her conversation with a particular colleague and it's too personal. Look for the signs. And make your warnings early.
But then, I have said enough.
Good luck. Or, congratulations.
🚨 BREAKING: José Mourinho back to Real Madrid, HERE WE GO! 💣🤍
All terms have been verbally agreed between José Mourinho and Real Madrid, waiting to sign all documents.
Plan for initial two year deal, JM to travel to Madrid after Real-Bilbao game.
The Special One is back.
The second video is out, and as a person who understands security issues, you will notice they masked their background, this kidnapping is not done by regular bandits, they are educated, that's all I have to say. Thank you for your attention on this matter.
For many years, we watched as herdsmen settled in the forests all around Oyo State.
We spoke about it.
We told the government this was not right and that they should do something about it, but they ignored us.