I was waiting for the Michael Jackson biopic, only for @netflix to upload his verdict. Anyway, that’s also good to watch but expecting the biopic soon,please.
I just came across VeryDarkMan’s video where he’s calling on Nigerian youths to start a war ASAP. Yes he said #war like the one going on in Iran but in Nigeria. Just imagine hmmmm.
I have an issue with what he’s preaching, especially when he himself has raised billions from the public for his NGO and still hasn’t given a full account of the money to date. He’s also reportedly opened a car dealership for his brother in China and a business for his sister.
VDM has moved from a one-bedroom in a remote area, where he used to take sachet water, to a luxury house. He now travels the world and drives expensive cars.
While he calls for war, I hope he’s back in the country from China and not hiding abroad while fueling fire here at home. Come back to Nigeria and start it yourself.
But before then, please account for the NGO money so people can believe you’re truly who you say you are.
Why do the people you help often end up betraying you?
Why does the person you supported, defended, and helped in times of need become the one who criticizes, envies, hates, or even pushes for your downfall?
What is the psychology behind betrayal, ungratefulness, ego clash?
For those with demonic minds and envious hearts, these are some reasons they betray as a result of mental or emotional imbalance:
1) Receiving creates a debt for loyalty, and debt wounds the ego.
Helping someone is noble. But for some recipients, it can unconsciously mean: “That person has it, and why not me? It must be because I’m inferior.”
2) Betrayers feel powerful when they betray, just to feel strong, and capable too. It is also because they resent that you saw them at their weakest and most vulnerable moment.
So what do they do? They reject the source of the discomfort within themselves by rejecting and betraying you.
3) To the ungrateful, gratitude turns into resentment. For at first, the person is grateful. But over time, a subtle psychological mechanism kicks in, and then boom: resentment.
Over time, their resentment looks for someone to hate. And the easiest target is you.
4) Silent jealousy.
If you are more stable, more disciplined, more successful, your help becomes a mirror. And not everyone can stand that reflection.
Instead of you rising above, these people prefer to pull you down. Instead of thanking, they belittle you. Instead of admiring, they criticize you.
Nietzsche wrote that the weak man transforms his powerlessness into immorality by calling it resentment.
Are you the problem,NO.
When someone betrays you after you helped them, it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. Historically, most betrayals don’t stem from malice. They stem from the emotional or mental issues of others.
So:
-Never help to be liked.
-Never expect eternal gratitude.
-Only help if you’re prepared to receive nothing in return.
-Emotional maturity consists of giving freely and accepting that not everyone will be able to appreciate what you offer.
And the final truth is:
Strong people appreciate help. Weak people perceive it as a threat.
Therefore this is not just rule, but a common pattern with malicious people.
Just understand this to save yourself from a lot of pain.
People who are not good listeners don’t care about you or what you have to say. They care about one thing: themselves. So stop exhausting yourself trying to explain, convince, or make them understand you.
With them, it’s never about mutual respect, it’s always about what they want, how they want it, and when they want it. Save your energy.
Enjoy the rest of your day.
I believe that by 2027, some governors will face serious consequences despite the power they currently hold.
The wise thing is to change now and start delivering real good governance for the people. If not, they will learn the hard way.
Because strong opposition politicians are emerging, and the game is changing.
We dey here dey sip coffee and dey chop on the side.
Eid Mubarak, Tweeps.
“Doors don’t open by themselves. Someone has to unlock them” @elrufai
I want to begin with a thank you Malam @elrufai for unlocking them for women, youths and Nigerians with no name but the right mind. We didn’t just fill seats. We delivered. Projects moved. Systems changed. Excellence became normal.
Malam didn’t just run a state, he built the women and youths. He put women in “untraditional” seats: Commissioners for Works, Health, Attorney General-comissioner of justice, Accountant General, DG Investment Promotion, GM Market Development, Deputy Governor, Chief of Staff, and many more I cannot recall.
He brought youth into the room where decisions happen through Kashim Ibrahim Fellows. Merit only. The Fellowship became his proof of concept. It wasn’t for the “son of who.” It was for the qualified. Young Nigerians were brought into the engine room of government, understanding policy, testing strategy, learning governance and leadership directly from top decision makers in Nigeria and abroad. That exposure is now paying off. KIF alumni are leading in finance, tech, health, public policy, law, and development across Nigeria and globally. Some earned competitive sponsorships to Harvard, Cambridge, and other top schools from the program that prepared them to compete
Some leaders build roads. Malam chose infrastructural development, sustainable development in all sectors and also built women and youths for inclusion in governance. At one point, the older generation complained he was “favoring youths and women too much.” What he favored was competence. He knows that when you put women and youths in charge and demand results, you don’t get tokenism. You get transformation.
To every young Nigerian and every woman told “that seat isn’t for you”: Malam proved otherwise. He said; “Take up space. You belong. If we can do it, you can do better without fear.”
That is the legacy we saw: He opened the door, demanded results. He trusts talent wherever it lives in women, youths, and other Nigerians without a famous last name.
Thank you for showing us that inclusion isn’t charity. It’s strategy. It worked and will always work.
Indeed “Doors don’t open by themselves. Someone has to unlock them”. Malam did opened for us.
Our prayers are with you.
@BashirElRufai It's healthy to isolate to give yourself room to reflect. In fact, the more you do that, the stronger you become spiritually.
But don't get too addicted 😀
Omar Suleiman in one of his Ramadan series episode said;
If Allah can be patient, waiting for you to return to Him and doesn’t punish you immediately after you commit a sin, why can’t you be patient with His plans and trust Him over your own desires?