On ADHD + catastrophizing:
Do you ever think about the impact of consistently telling kids their ADHD related struggles mean they're lazy, careless etc? No wonder some of us catastrophize- many of us were taught that small mistakes DO make us inherently bad.
I stopped saying "i'm sorry" when talking about sexual abuse. instead I use things like "I hate that they did that to you" or "you didn't deserve that" because for me people being sorry and sad always felt so empty and like it was still focused on me being "damaged" or something