adhd-angsty

she/her, 28 | adhd/aroreretini & chronic illness | pākehā in Aotearoa NZ | queer | bad at replies & dms | a mess.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

I've been meaning to do an intro thread for ....more than a year, and just keep putting it off, so instead, here are some tweets that I think best represent what my twitter vibe is all about:
https://t.co/9TlAaO43cv

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

Hi, if you're looking into ADHD and keep stopping yourself with the "but I'm probably just lazy", please know that everyone I've met who got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult felt the same way before diagnosis. You wouldn't be angsting over it so much it it was just laziness.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

Love this game 🙃

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

The rules about how we're supposed to do things are silly at best and oppressive at worst. The world should be more accommodating, but it's not, so take the wins where you can. It's actually pretty rad to prioritise your own wellbeing over how you think you should behave.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

So often I'll get into a situation that's challenging and just brute-force my way through. I've internalised that making accommodations for myself is weak - as though struggling through convos in loud bars is somehow tougher than saying "hey, can we go somewhere quieter?"

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

@hoperhenderson You're actually spot on- I don't know why I included conflict in that list! In hindsight I probably meant fights. Conflict is key to healthy relationships for sure.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

"Relationships are hard" means creating a life with someone and addressing your shared baggage takes patience, effort and reflection. It does not mean that conflict, unhappiness and resentment are inherent parts of relationships regardless of who you're dating.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

@ADDeeCee It honestly scares me how normalized it was to just sort of be tolerated by and tolerate my partner??? Like give me celebratory love always please.

[Astral Soul @kahihiha_shree]

“Queer' not as being about who you're having sex with (that can be a dimension of it); but 'queer' as being about the self that is at odds with everything around it and that has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live.”
bell hooks

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

Wish I could go back and tell my 20 year old self that it's actually fully possible to be with someone that makes you feel more vivid, not washed out. And that someone making you feel like a more tired and stressed version of yourself is probs not the one for you.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

I've been with my current partner for 5 years now! That's required a lot of growth- we are both v different to how we started. But that growth has felt good and constantly rewarding.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

@ADDeeCee @barisanhantu @strawberryautie Hahahaha god you're all the best and like the only thing I miss about this place.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

Unfortunately the more therapy I do the less I want to be on twitter, so yay for mental health but sorry for being so absent I guess haha

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

@barisanhantu @Finnattentive @ADHDelaide @ADHDeeds @ADDeeCee @SMarsching @SlowWaterMvmnt Huge same. I barely check this but I think of you (and others tagged) OFTEN. That period of time shared meant and always will mean the world to me.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

@BonitaLissaTTV it's a self own too, promise

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

Is it my calling or am I just hyperfocused on it: Memoirs of an ADHDer

[Kera O’Regan @keraoregan]

You should #Mask4YourMates because even if you don’t know it, you have disabled and chronically ill friends and whānau.

Not everyone who is #HighRiskCovid19 looks like it, talks about it, or even knows it.

You never know how many ppl you are keeping safe when you mask ☺️✨

[Kera O’Regan @keraoregan]

Kia ora Aotearoa 👋🏽

Just a wee PSA to say that masking if you can, even if you don’t “have to” is super rad 💜

Your disabled, immune compromised, #HighRiskCovid19 friends are counting on you to keep us safe as our world continues to shrink.

So #Mask4YourMates !

Are you in?

[AJ 🍊🔞 @stebedonnet]

y’all, I mean this in the most genuine, kind, non-judgmental way, but I am begging some of you to please stop assuming that every misstep someone makes is made purposefully and maliciously.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

@normal_ness It's hard but also easier in a way because it feels new, rather than like being stuck.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

It is deeply sucky that unpacking trauma, dealing with mental illness, putting up boundaries etc generally makes you feel worse before it helps you feel better.

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

@dirtydiana I know the post-therapy zone out very well!

[adhd-angsty @AdhdAngsty]

It's worth it but damn, it's a two step forward one step back vibe for sure.