Having people who love you is one thing. But having people who still love you when you are a burden, still love you when everything is a mess, and still love you when you are in the wrong, those are your people. To be truly loved is to be loved even when it is inconvenient.
as an avoidant, i ruin things before they can ruin me.
i overthink, i pull away, i create distance and then i tell myself "see? they would've left anyway." but deep down, i know i'm the one who pushed them out.