USA. A Mexican restaurant. We had not yet ordered anything, and the food was already arriving.
Chips. Salsa. Unrequested. Free.
I stopped the waiter. "We have not earned these."
"They just come with the table, man."
They come with the TABLE. In my land, hospitality is a debt. Every gift creates an obligation, weighed carefully, returned in the proper season with interest of feeling. Here, the gift arrives before you have even proven you can pay for dinner.
This is not an appetizer. This is a declaration: we trust you. Eat.
I ate with the gravity the moment deserved. And then — I must report this calmly — the basket emptied, and a new one appeared.
"Did we…?"
"Refill," the waiter said. "It's bottomless."
Bottomless. They have wells of salsa. The supply lines of this nation are beyond anything my ancestors imagined.
My friend warned me. "Don't fill up on chips, dude."
Too late. I had accepted three baskets. Honor demanded each one be finished — an unfinished gift is an insult. By the time my actual food arrived, I was a ruined man.
I was not hungry. I was not comfortable. I had been defeated by a courtesy.
Generosity that arrives before the request cannot be repaid. It can only be survived.
I know the rule now. I have made my peace with the basket. One basket. Two at the most.
Who am I deceiving. There is no number of baskets I would refuse. The trust of a nation is in that salsa, and I intend to honor all of it.
May 29, 1997: John Stockton hits the game-winner at the buzzer in Game 6 of the Western Conference Finals, sending Utah to the NBA Finals.
Stockton had 25 PTS/13 AST and Karl Malone had 24 PTS/11 REB in a 103-100 victory over the Rockets. Clyde Drexler scored 33 PTS for Houston.
We are saddened and heartbroken to share the news of the passing of Kyle Busch, a two-time Cup champion and one of our sport's greatest and fiercest drivers. He was 41 years old.
We extend our deepest condolences to the Busch family, Richard Childress Racing and the entire motorsports community.
Brendan Sorsby has entered a gambling addiction program for sports betting, which could end his college career.
The second paragraph of this story is remarkable.
Every training camp I had at Washington State University, Coach Leach would share the same story.
The story of two kids. The rich kid and the poor kid.
The rich kid has two choices. He can become spoiled, entitled, lazy, and expect everything to be handed to him because he has been given more. Or he can take every advantage of what he has been given—resources, coaching, opportunities—and use it to become even better.
The poor kid has two choices too. He can say, “I never had a chance. Nobody gave me anything. The world is against me.” He can feel sorry for himself and use it as an excuse. Or he can say, “I may not have what they have, but I am going to outwork everybody.” He can become tougher, more driven, and more relentless than everybody else.
It was a powerful message in a locker room full of people from different backgrounds, different families, and different life experiences. Some guys came from wealth. Some came from almost nothing. Some had every opportunity. Others had to fight for every inch.
But despite all of those differences, everybody still had the same choice.
You can take ownership and use what you have as fuel.
Or you can become victim-minded. You can look for excuses, blame your circumstances, become entitled, and convince yourself that because of what you have—or because of what you do not have—you cannot become what you want to be.
It is not about how you start. It is about what you choose to do with how you start.
The rich kid can waste what he has been given or use it to build something greater. The poor kid can use his circumstances as an excuse or as fuel.
In the end, greatness does not come from starting with more or less. It comes from which person inside of you that you choose to feed.
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My best friends and I had a band in high school.
30 years later, we reunited at the legendary Metro in Chicago for 600 friends, with our wives & kids in the front row. It was hilarious.
We fully committed, raised thousands for charity, and I’ve never had more fun 🤘🏻
Richie Saunders is one of the greatest players in BYU history.
-Led BYU to Sweet 16
-All Big 12 Player
-4-year player
-Turned down Kentucky & his former coach to stay at BYU
-Opposing teams hated playing him because he plays so hard
-A+ ambassador for the school & Church
Rip Brad Arnold. I love 3 doors down. Seen them a few times in concert. One of my best friends flew from Australia just to see them perform a few years ago. September 2018. @balltrain was there too. So good live.
As for Whittingham, it could get interesting. Once Darth Vader was unmasked and back to his old self as Anakin, he started to see things differently. Maybe once he gets away from all the noise, Whittingham will too. 👉 https://t.co/vdj1ZVlgon
I arrived in Provo as a young man with @BNKonFOX not knowing what to expect. I was overwhelmed with all the love I received from Cougar Nation. From Cosmo to Kalani it was all love. From the ice cream to the dirty soda to the weird guy at the pizza shop it was all love. Coach Sitake danced his way into my heart. There is no place like Provo and Provo can’t exist without BYU football. And BYU football can’t exist without Kalani. And neither can #ProvoDave Stay Kalani Stay!