Malenga Mwenye Malengo @batianZab - Twitter Profile

8 months ago

I have often said that the majority African men are childless. It is in fact, the same circle of 5 men behind the 100 unclaimed pregnancies out there. Every 10 "illegitimate" kids trace back to 2 men (at most 3) who have been married at least once. Yet we as a collective get the flak for the sins committed by less than 8% of us. I mean, if among 100% of men, you all were impregnated by 4%, why should the 96% be held responsible for your lack of discernment? Out of every 10 men in the 35-45 age bracket, only 2 are actively married, 6 never married and have no kids, and 2 divorced. Why must we - as a collective - be defined by the gross outliers (2 married)? Beats common sense. I swear, everyone is lamenting deadbeat fathers online but check your circles as a man. In mine, none of them - absolutely none - is a deadbeat father. Of say 40 dudes, only 4 are married, and of those, only 2 have kids, the rest of us are cruising through life without any domestic ties. Childless. Focused on their thing. And I keep saying, we are so obvious as a gender, we literally cannot keep a ruse past 2 weeks: A man cannot pick your calls at night, he lives with his wife but they are not sleeping on the same bed, they have been separating for the last 2 years, he only sees you at night, never invites you to his place, it's always BNB and your house, even a bread would tell it is being lied to. But you bought it because the ranger rover leather felt nice, and your friends were jealous of the vacation pictures. Which is honestly fine by me, it is your prerogative, but when shit hits the fan, why must I ask a faultless man be dragged into the equation? I have no problem with women dating married men, it's a personal choice. And an economic, supply-demand factor. What I have a problem with is women pretending not to know these men were married. In fact, because of the comfort he afforded you, you hoped you could wrestle him from his wife's grasp, and enjoy the spoils alone. And when that failed, it was easier to hide in the "I didn't know he was married" cloak, because you imagined it could afford you some grace from future dating prospects, when the consequence is loud (kids). But honestly, no man takes you seriously after that. Because we, too, have been men all our lives. We know how shit we are at covering our tracks, and how territorial women get with men they are dating. You saw the lipstick in his car, he had to attend his niece's school day. And what unmarried man wears leather sandals with jeans FFS?! Talking about men don't hold their friends accountable. We don't know deadbeats. That's your circle, not ours. Birds of the same feather flock together. Preferably in overpriced hiding spots like Samaki Samaki. That is why most single men cannot relate. Sunday finds active single men on hikes, playing games, in football pitches, in their shops etc. What single man goes to a club/bar at 2 pm on a Sunday to listen to rhumba? That's a man escaping the noise in his house. Let's be honest with each other please. When you were on that plane to Malaysia, it was "my man", now the kid needs his 7th pamper for the day, it is "men". No, thank you. I understand that there is also an evolutionary basis behind falling for a made man, but he is in his 40s for the love of God, with all the masculinity (read financial stability) he exudes, no other woman saw him and snatched him? Really? Just you. You are the special one. Just raise your kids in peace and keep us out of it. I do not have a baby mama. None of my friends have a baby mama. Deadbeats I only encounter online, in your threads. We do not know any deadbeats. There is no one to hold accountable.

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