MARRIAGE HACK FOR MEN:
Whenever you ask her what's wrong and she says "nothing", it means she wants you to keep asking, it means she wants you to press a little more.
NOT pressing on by asking her questions upon questions and breathing down her neck trying to persuade her to open up and tell you what is wrong, naaa, she wants you to shake her container a little, because that's the only way you can get a woman to pour out to you.
You see, women know that men are problem-solving minded. She knows by the time she opens up and tells you straight away what the problem is, you will be more focused on solving the problem than tending to how she feels about that particular problem and many other NEEDS.
Men be like; "babe Is that it? Okay do this, do that, try this, try that..... you'll be alright."
End of discussion.
This is a man for you, we don't have that much time and patience to pamper a woman, we just want to fix the problem, smile, and move on to a football game or our phones.
And this is what we don't understand about women, she doesn't want you to fix the problem straight away. As a matter of fact, most times when she's making you work hard to know what her probelm is - she doesn't have a problem. Aunty just wants you to pamper her, that's all. She wants some attention, but because you are more focused on finding what the problem is and solving it, you cannot see that in reverse her probelm is that you are looking for her problem, instead of pampering her to a solution.
Learn to shake her container uncle. Most times she wants your attention more than she wants your solution.
I know it gets frustrating when you are asking and she's making it hard for you to keep shaking, that's because you are shaking her with both hands. Quickly it gets to that point where you are like, "Okay, if you don't want to tell me leave it."
Naaa, never say that to a woman... She honestly wants to tell you what the probelm is, but she wants to tell you about other seemingly little problems first before letting the main one out;
Like how you haven't bought her a gift in 9 month.
She has a challenge with her boss at the office but first she wants to ask why you haven't said anything about her new nail polish, and her new hair. It's almost fading off and yet no single compliment. That's what she wants to talk about first, before telling you how she's considering quiting her job, which is her main problem.
Learn to shake her container. When she's playing hard start touching other little areas of her life. Talk about the nice things, don't pressure her to tell, tease her first, about her hair, about the last dress she wore, about the last photo she sent. Give her the opportunity to say "leave me jor, since I made this hair you haven't paid me a compliment" ..... there! One problem down, the main problem to go!
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