Hot take but sometimes you need to be absent in other people's lives so you can be present in your own. Sometimes we give way too much for others while giving nothing to ourselves
I love using the phrase "vice versa". Fuck you. I'm not saying all that again in reverse.
Big shoutout to etcetera too. What am I, the listing things fairy? Use your imagination.
I hate to tell you this because it sounds like bullshit when you first hear it, but you really can choose to reframe every hardship in your life as something you can learn from or draw kindness and empathy and connection from. Even though of course you wish it never happened.