Brandon Costilow

Twitter for me = a personalized virtual sports bar. Party of 1. Truth has no alias. My tweets are my own unless they are offensive then I was hacked.

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@IHateSoccerPod It would be a lot easier for kids to make this choice if all of the adults involved actually allowed them to do so without injecting false hope narratives intended to persuade them to choose one or the other. Guilt is on both sides, but it sits w/greedy adults.

[College Soccer Truth ™ @ImCollegeSoccer]

Happy Father’s Day! ❤️

5 years old - Dad knows everything!

7 years old - Dad knows.

10 years old - Maybe dad doesn’t know?!

12 years old - Dad doesn’t know.

14 years old - Dads gone crazy!

16 years old - Can’t take dad seriously.

18 years old - What does dad know?!

22 years old - Dads talking rubbish!

24 years old - I know more than dad!

26 years old - Dad seems to know some things after all.

30 years old - Think I should ask dad about this?!

40 years old - It’s amazing how dad went through all this!

45 years old - Dads been right all along.

50 years old - If dad was here, I could have learned a lot from him.

Your father is the only man who's proud to see you doing better than him.

#CSTruth

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@JoshChavis65 Awesome! This is 💯 what it is all about.

[Coach Gunnar Hayes @CoachGunHayes]

"Go somewhere you enjoy going to school, have a chance to play, and enjoy being around teammates and coaches. You will remember relationships more than stats."

- Anonymous DI Coach

The goal isn't just to find the highest level.

The goal is to find the right fit.

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@Don_K_Williams This isn’t a soccer lesson it is a life lesson. In addition, there is no such thing as ephemeral messaging.

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@Don_K_Williams IMO this is the core problem in American youth soccer right now. Not training or coaches. It’s the lack of honesty, transparency & truthfulness from parents, clubs, and the kids themselves — all chasing clout, greed & fake status.

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

“Objects in mirror are closer than they appear.”

The most understated message of all time.

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@ImCollegeSoccer 💯

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@IHateSoccerPod @DrPhilDP My question to you all is:
Do you really believe they have received the honest feedback necessary to make an informed decision throughout their many years of playing at that level?

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@Realisiah1 If the Board doesn’t back him then what else matters?

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@UnitedStandMUFC Good luck and Godspeed to Michale Carrick!! He’s earned the opportunity and it’s time to remind people that Newton Heath isn’t too distant in the rear view mirror. The rebuild begins….

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@Topbin90 Why?

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@getKennethed22 @FabrizioRomano Go fish!!

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@cwhall75 Here is the solution that allows this to work: the coach who stops the game and loses his challenge must go “butts up” in the opponent’s goal while a player from other team takes a single shot from PK spot. IF they hit the 🎯 then a goal is awarded. Problem solved.

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@cwhall75 If we just make the game worse maybe student athletes will lose their desire to play and then we won’t have to worry about eligibility years, player ages, NIL, and ADs at most Colleges and Universities can justify ending their programs. -Decision Makers

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@ChigaCzr 5-1 PSG

Unless the blatant PK isn’t given because the game is already decided then it’s 4-1 PSG.

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@PaulSpacey Why aren’t those guys on their iPhones?

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@alexlubyansky_ It’s a tired story. How are you helping to correct it?

[David Copeland Smith @BeastModeSoccer]

There’s a moment most parents don’t notice when it happens. Your child stops talking about football. It doesn’t happen all at once, it fades. They stop mentioning what the coach said, stop telling you how training went, and the car ride home gets quieter. You assume it’s just them growing up and pulling away. Sometimes it is, but after years of working with players, there’s usually something else behind it.

When a player goes quiet about football, it’s often because somewhere along the line the game stopped feeling like a safe place to fail. That doesn’t come from one big moment, it builds slowly. Post-game conversations that feel like evaluations, questions that carry weight, reactions that subtly change the atmosphere in the house depending on how they played. None of it is intentional, but they feel it.

Players don’t stop talking to protect themselves. They stop talking to protect you. They start filtering what they say because they can sense what your reaction might be. Over time, that creates distance, not just from you, but from the game itself.

There’s a real cost to that. Players who feel psychological safety at home recover faster from mistakes, stay in the game longer, and take the right risks because they’re not carrying the pressure of managing someone else’s emotions alongside their own. You can’t coach that into them on the pitch. It has to come from you first.

So ask yourself one honest question tonight. After a bad game, what does the house feel like? Be honest, because they already know the answer. Humans first. Football second. #OwnYourDevelopment

[Brandon Costilow @bcostilow12]

@JPFinlayNBCS Okay