INUMIDUN

I wish I could, but I don’t want to

[INUMIDUN @beamarh]

You are not your bad days

[Zatanna Zatara @zatannannataz]

I worked my ass off at Planned Parenthood for YEARS for news like this. Incredible. Such an incredible bright spot in a post-Epstein world.

[Moon moth 🌗 @RolandLazli]

Because a LOT of them never wanted to be parents, they just see it as a societal expectation to fulfill. If you asked any one of them why they became parents you might never get a reasonable response.

[OLUCHI🫦 ( you have no funder) @Phatbabeluuu]

Any man that is obsessed with “respect” is not the man for me. I am not subservient to you.

[Jola @Jollz]

A lot of deeply unregulated adults would pour out all their frustrations and disappointments on their children in the most horrific physical abuse under the guise of discipline

[shona @Officiallshona]

Abuse is deeply embedded in the Nigerian culture. Just look around at work,churches and mosques, homes, marriages even schools!

It is so normalised that you become the outcast, the trouble maker, the selfish and foolish one for choosing to not participate in the dysfunction.

[OTOME💪 @TomeofTomeKoko]

While we are discussing physical abuse, let’s not forget verbal abuse. The reason we see many young people with severe cases of low self esteem is because they had parents who made them feel absolutely worthless.

[Jegede!💋 @Fluffball_xo]

And none of us turned out fine btw
The "discipline" didn't do jackshit
Nigeria is a cesspool of immoral, maladjusted,ill-mannered,vile and all-round terrible individuals

[lezzo ❤️‍🔥 @dykegrrl]

people saying he wouldn’t do that for her but the greater injustice is that he wouldn’t have to. men get to keep their royal title when marrying commoners. the system itself is misogynistic, forcing women to choose between love and security in a way that men never have to.

[Olori🍒 @OloriOfOloris]

Hot take: daughters had it harder with their mothers than their brothers did. Many Nigerian mothers are deeply male centered.

[No filter Skin @NoFilterSkin]

your abusive father controlled his temper around coworkers, neighbors, friends, church members, cashiers, & strangers.

then he brought the rage home to people with less power to leave.

that was a choice he kept making.

[Saint Mari @teslimalabi_]

The beatings worked like mad:

- we cannot challenge authority
- we keep electing leaders that rob us and rub it in our faces
- we maintain a culture of silence that enables the cycle of abuse
- we dissociate and can only process difficult emotions through the lens of religion

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

Pregnancy wasn't 50/50.
Birth wasn't 50/50.
Breastfeeding wasn't 50/50.
The mental load wasn't 50/50.
Postpartum recovery wasn't 50/50.
The sleepless nights weren't 50/50.
The physical changes weren't 50/50.
By the time the bills came, she had already paid in ways a man never could.

[‏ً @omgsidewalks]

Having parents who are financially able to take care of themselves is such an underrated blessing as an adult child.

[abiola @abxola]

real.

also, isn't it interesting how it's always the english (lit) teachers? what does that tell you about the impact and value of humanities/being able to read 'into' things

[the pressure @larabillionaire]

Gentle parenting isn’t the absence of discipline. It’s simply parenting with empathy and training with reasonable consequences.

[Oluwatimileyin✨🦋 @Timmysofine]

Spanking kids is a lazy form of parenting. If you can teach a pet to behave without hitting why are you beating your kids with a belt.

[Bella Hadidn’t @SkinwithLolami]

I really dislike that genre of couple content where one partner (typically the Nigerian) is reduced to a caricature. It’s almost always the same script. Yelling, cussing, being unnecessarily aggressive, or acting irrational for laughs.

[Thandzᥫ᭡ @Wu_Thandz_Clan]

I love the idea of restoration after loss.

Meeting the new people who are about to love you and they actually love you.
Friendship and girlhood again after friendship break ups.

I love feeling like we’re on the up again and life starts feeling amazing again.

[Luminous choice by FOLA @OlayemiKomolaf4]

Deciding between free bleeding or wearing a pad on the 4th /5th day of your period is crazy .

If you choose to free bleed, you’ll actually bleed, but if you wear a pad , nothing happens 😂