Priyamvada Pandey

Experience on life path 😊

Psychotherapist || Mental Health || #CBT #ERP #OCDexpert #Expert_in_deaddiction

President- Manotkarsh Foundation Trust

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Your #HairFall has nothing to do with expensive #shampoos .

It's what's missing on your plate.

1. PROTEIN (strong strands)
Eggs, paneer, lentils, rajma, greek yogurt, sunflower seeds

2. IRON & ZINC (less hair fall)
Moringa leaves, pomegranate, spinach

3. VITAMINS (scalp health)
Ragi, papaya, guava

4. OMEGA-3 (shine & moisture)
Salmon, chia, flax, walnuts, pumpkin seeds

5. HORMONE BALANCE
Sesame seeds, methi seeds, ghee, pudina tea

Your hair doesn't need more products.
It needs better food.

#HairCare

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

“Every flower blooms in its own time… 🌸
Just like every pregnancy, every baby has a beautiful journey of growth. 🤰❤️

Don’t compare your bloom with someone else’s season. 🌱✨

#SundayVibes #PregnancyJourney #FlowerLove #Motherhood #PregnancyTalks

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

You wanted them to fight for the relationship. Instead, they kept fighting against you, and eventually, you understood the difference.

Fighting for someone means trying to understand before trying to win. It means admitting when you've caused pain, having the uncomfortable conversations, and caring enough about the relationship to fix what is breaking. It doesn't mean never making mistakes. It means not letting pride become more important than the person you claim to love.

But fighting with someone is different. It's turning every conversation into a defense. Making excuses instead of taking responsibility. Shifting the blame until you start questioning your own feelings. You weren't asking for perfection. You were asking for someone who would stand beside you when things got hard instead of making you feel like you were the problem for wanting things to get better.

And maybe that's what finally becomes clear when you walk away. You weren't asking them to fight against you. You were begging them to fight for something that mattered to you both. But a relationship cannot survive when one person is trying to repair the damage while the other is busy proving they didn't cause it.

Sometimes the door doesn't close because the love disappeared. It closes because you finally realize you shouldn't have to fight the person you're supposed to be fighting for.

#RelationshipCoach

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

When negative thoughts begin to feel like facts, depression can make it increasingly difficult to separate an interpretation from what is actually happening. Thoughts about failure, rejection, worthlessness or hopelessness may begin to feel certain rather than questionable.

Repeated negative thinking can strengthen this process. The more often a person tells themselves that they are inadequate, unwanted or incapable, the more familiar and convincing those conclusions can become.

Depression can also narrow attention towards disappointment, mistakes and perceived failures while making positive or contradictory evidence harder to recognise. As a result, assumptions may gradually be treated as proof.

This can affect confidence, relationships and everyday decision-making. The person may withdraw, avoid opportunities or expect negative outcomes because their internal conclusions feel completely reliable.

In psychotherapy, the psychotherapist and the patient can examine how particular negative thoughts develop, what experiences strengthen them and how closely they correspond with present reality. The work can help the patient distinguish between emotionally powerful thoughts and factual evidence, while understanding the deeper experiences that may be sustaining them.

#Depression #NegativeThoughts #SelfCriticism #Psychotherapy

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

How #PORN rewires his definition of "ATTRACTIVE"

❗ THE FILTER INSTALLED BY CONTENT

After thousands of hours consuming enhanced, filtered, surgically altered images, his brain's definition of "attractive" was recalibrated without his awareness. The standard shifted. You didn't change. His perception did.

❗ THE COMPARISON THAT RUNS CONSTANTLY

He doesn't consciously compare you. His brain does it automatically. Every woman he sees in real life is processed through a filter calibrated by content. Including you. The evaluation happens before thought. And the evaluation is rigged against reality.

❗ WHY HE SAYS "YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL" AND STILL DOESN'T DESIRE YOU

His rational brain sees your beauty. His reward system doesn't respond to it. The disconnection between "she's beautiful" and arousal is the rewiring in action. He's not lying when he says it. He's describing a thought that no longer triggers a feeling.

❗ THE BODY IMAGE TRANSFER

His recalibrated standard leaked into YOUR self perception. His silence. His distance. His absence of desire. All communicated to your nervous system that your body was the problem. It installed a standard in your mirror that was written by his screen.

❗ THE REVERSAL

This is reversible. With sustained abstinence, his brain's dopamine system recalibrates to natural levels. The familiar becomes rewarding again. But "sustained" means months. And most men won't sustain what they don't believe is a problem.

#Pornography #Addiction
#Sexlife #Haelthtips #MentalWellness #psychology

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Pornography isn’t harmless. It can distort expectations about sex, bodies, and relationships. It can normalize harmful sexual behavior, reinforce objectification, and fuel exploitation. And when young people are exposed, it can shape their understanding of sex before they have the maturity or context to process what they’re seeing. These impacts deserve more than a shrug or “it’s just entertainment.” We need a culture that values consent, dignity, and healthy relationships over an industry that profits from sexualization and exploitation.

#EndSexualExploitation #Pornography #SexualExploitation #Consent #HealthyRelationships

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Is Your Child Looking Older Than Their Age...?

A bulky build, hoarse voice, rapid height growth, or early body changes could be signs of early puberty and they shouldn't be ignored.

Early puberty may affect a child's physical and emotional well-being, making timely medical evaluation important. Learn the warning signs, possible lifestyle triggers, and what parents can do to support healthy development.

#EarlyPuberty #ChildHealth #Parenting

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

@JhunuDr It's very effictive...

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Never stop dating your partner. Dress up for each other. Go somewhere together. Hold hands. Tease shamelessly. Laugh hysterically. Marriage becomes boring when couples stop dating.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Your Partner Must Know Where You Are

Some couples don’t share their whereabouts - not cheating - just taking each other for granted. Silence breeds suspicion. A simple call/text can protect trust and prevent needless tension.

Some go home late without notice. Others leave town without saying a word. That’s not freedom - it’s disrespect. Marriage demands periodic updates. Secrets break marriage.

If you don’t want anyone to ask you questions - stay single. Marriage requires communication - clarity, not guesswork. Love informs. Silence distances. Vagueness kills trust.

Don’t wait to be asked - update freely. A quick message is kindness. Coming home late? Say so. Traveling? Discuss it first. Respect your partner’s peace of mind. Let your hearts stay in touch.

Your partner deserves to know where you are - not because they control you, but because they care. That’s not surveillance - it’s sacred trust. The marriage privilege comes with responsibility.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Sometimes, the disrespect at the end becomes louder than every good memory that came before it. And that's when something inside you finally says, enough.

People don't usually walk away because of one bad day. They walk away after too many days of swallowing hurt, forgiving things that should never have happened, and holding on to memories of how good the relationship used to feel. They remember the laughter, the good years, the little moments that once made everything worth it. They keep hoping those moments will come back.

But there comes a point when the good memories can no longer cover the way someone is treating you now. The words become harder to forget. The disrespect starts changing the way you see the person you once trusted. And slowly, the heart gets tired, not because it stopped loving, but because it has been asked to tolerate too much for too long.

Sometimes there isn't one final betrayal or one dramatic ending. Sometimes it's just the quiet realization that the person you keep trying to understand no longer makes you feel safe, valued, or respected. You stop arguing. You stop explaining. You stop hoping for the same things you've been hoping for all along.

And that's when you know you're done. Not because the good memories meant nothing, but because you finally understand that good memories cannot be the reason you keep accepting a painful present.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Healing is less about getting rid of the trauma and more about expanding the parts of life that are not trauma.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Never dismiss someone’s feelings simply because their reaction doesn’t make sense to you.

We all experience the world through different histories, losses, relationships, fears, sensitivities and memories. What feels small to one person can touch something much deeper in another.

We don’t all carry the same wounds, so we won’t always respond to the same situation in the same way.

Respecting someone’s emotions doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything they say or accept every behaviour that comes from those emotions.

It simply means recognising that what they are feeling is real to them.

We don’t get to decide how hurt someone is “allowed” to be just because we would have reacted differently.

And support doesn’t always require perfect advice.

Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is stay close, listen, and resist the urge to compare, minimise or rush someone through what they’re feeling.

Sometimes support sounds like:

“I may not fully understand what this feels like for you, but I’m here.”

No “you’re overreacting.”
No “other people have it worse.”
No pressure to move on before they’re ready.

Just presence.
Patience.
Empathy.

You don’t have to feel someone else’s pain in exactly the same way to believe that it is real.

What helps you feel truly heard when you’re going through something difficult...?

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

The older you get, the people who matter most are the ones who make you feel seen, heard, and supported not just the ones who've been around the longest.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Marry the Person You Find Beautiful

Marry someone you genuinely find beautiful. You’ll kiss that person for life. You’ll wake up to that face every morning - make sure it makes you smile and sets your soul on fire, every day.

But look beyond curves and fair skin. Choose someone whose faith, dreams and mindset align. Character sustains what chemistry starts. Vision glues what attraction begins.

And remember looks don’t maintain themselves. A happy heart reflects on the face. Inner peace polishes outer glow. People shine when they’re emotionally safe and consistently loved.

Also, flexibility sustains marriage more than sameness. You can live with anyone you choose to love - but shared faith, values and dreams make the journey smoother and deeply fulfilling.

In love, don’t ignore your eyes. Don’t settle down out of pity, panic or pressure. Attraction matters. But lasting love is built daily, with intention, patience, kindness and shared purpose.

#RelationshipCoach

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Tolerate Your Partner...?

Welcome to Marriage...!

She shops for hours. He watches football till midnight. She feels cold at night and wraps in three duvets. He sweats and sleeps without underwear. That’s a normal marriage.

Tolerate the little things in life - not abuse. All forms of abuse - physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual - are red lines. But when it comes to personal flaws, nobody is perfect. Just love them.

Marriage is managing opposites without fighting. Love learns, adjusts, and laughs at a partner’s “funny” ways. Same bathroom - she showers in boiling water; he prefers it lukewarm.

Some days, she just wants to be held and sleep - he wants to dig deep. It’s not just your house. Testosterone levels are naturally higher in men - though some women are bad number!

Learn to “tolerate” each other’s little joys. Tastes differ - so do moods, meals, and music. No one wins when everyone insists. Flexibility isn’t losing yourself. It’s finding middle ground.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

I can forgive what your pain made you do to us, but I can't pretend it didn't change me.

I know you were fighting battles inside yourself that I couldn't always see. I know some of the things you did came from wounds you never healed. And maybe I spent too much time trying to understand you, hoping that if I loved you enough, you would eventually choose to heal instead of letting your pain spill into our relationship.

But understanding you didn't make it hurt any less. I was still the one left picking up the pieces. I was still the one wondering why the person I loved could make me feel so alone. There were moments when I needed you to fight for us, but you were too busy fighting yourself.

So yes, I forgive you. Not because what happened was okay, and not because I've forgotten the nights I cried or the parts of me that changed because of you. I forgive you because I don't want to carry the weight of what you couldn't heal.

But I'll never forget. Some wounds don't stay open forever, but they leave a scar, and sometimes that scar is the only reminder of how much you once loved someone who wasn't ready to stop hurting them.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Sometimes your partner brushes against something and you react way harder than the moment calls for. You just hit a raw spot.

We all have them.

They're the tender places left by old hurts, and when a partner accidentally presses one, the pain that comes up belongs partly to the past. Learning to say "that touched a raw spot for me" instead of attacking can change the whole conversation.

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

☕ ₹300 for coffee. ₹300 for a burger. ₹350–₹400 for biryani.

And honestly, we don’t think twice about spending it.

A coffee takes 10–15 minutes to finish. A burger, maybe 15–20. A box of biryani, perhaps 20 minutes.

And a few hours later, we’re hungry again and spend again.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with spending on food or little things that make us happy. ❤️

But when it comes to therapy, we often pause.

“Therapy is expensive.”

During a recent survey, I came across people who genuinely wanted professional psychological support but felt hesitant or simply weren’t financially able to pay the regular cost of a therapy session.

And that’s exactly why we’re bringing back our Trial Session Pack. 🌱

Last year, around this exact time, we launched our trial sessions at ₹1000/session and served more than 30 People in need.

This year, we’re making it ₹1200 for an hour session.

🌿 Session Details

• ₹1200 per session
• 60 minutes
• Online session via Google Meet
• Payment/booking Via GPay
• Sessions will be scheduled based on confirmed bookings received.

We will take forward only the number of confirmed bookings we received, so please don’t comment unless you genuinely intend to take the session.

To participate, simply comment “INTERESTED” and I’ll share the details with you.

This initiative can especially make professional support a little more accessible for school students, college students, young adults, and anyone who has been wanting to try therapy but couldn’t afford the regular session fee.

And if you know someone who might benefit from this, please share this post on your profile. ❤️

Maybe ₹1200 is still not a small amount for everyone.

But perhaps, for someone who has been quietly struggling and waiting for an affordable opportunity to reach out, this could be the beginning.

Let’s make mental health support a little more accessible. 🌱

Only serious enquiries, please.

#therapist
#MentalWellness

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

मोबाइल और हम.....

मोबाइल हाथ में आया,
तो दूर की दुनिया पास हो गई,
पर न जाने कब हमारी,
अपनों से दूरी खास हो गई।

सुबह की पहली नजर मोबाइल पर,
रात की आखिरी बात भी वही,
पास बैठे अपनों से बातें कम,
दूर वालों की खबरें सही।

मां पूछे- “बेटा, खाना खाया?”
जवाब आता- “हां मां…बस दो मिनट।”
और वो दो मिनट साहब,
कब दो घंटे हो जाएं…
पता ही नहीं चलता!

कभी चिट्ठियों में प्यार था,
कभी मिलने की खुशी थी,
अब मैसेज में “कैसे हो?”
और सामने बैठा अपना ही
सोचता है- “भाई, मैं भी यहीं हूं!”

दोस्त सामने बैठा हो,
फिर भी चैट किसी और से चलती है,
घर में चार लोग बैठे हों,
लेकिन हर किसी की दुनिया
अलग-अलग स्क्रीन पर चलती है।

मोबाइल बुरा नहीं दोस्त,
बस इतना ध्यान रखना,
बैटरी खत्म होने से पहले
रिश्ते डिस्चार्ज न हो जाएं।

कभी मोबाइल रखकर देखो,
अपनों की आंखों में झांककर,
शायद जिंदगी ज्यादा खूबसूरत लगे,
थोड़ा सा “ऑनलाइन” से निकलकर।

मोबाइल ने हमें दुनिया से जोड़ दिया,
बस अफसोस…
उसी मोबाइल ने हमें
हमारे अपनों से थोड़ा दूर कर दिया।

और सच कहूं…

ऑनलाइन स्टेटस देखकर
किसी के “एक्टिव” होने का इंतजार मत करो,
कभी सामने बैठे अपने से पूछ लेना-
“तुम कैसे हो?” ❤️

[Priyamvada Pandey @Behtichetna]

Don’t give silent treatment. Silence creates distance. It punishes instead of healing. Speak openly, even when hurt. Silence builds walls. Honest talk builds bridges. Choose bridges, not walls.