When we first moved to the UK, my husband was working 6–7 days a week, 10–12 hour shifts in a warehouse.
I was in school, still applying for jobs, and learning a whole new system.
Most men couldn’t last a few months in that place.
But my husband? He was built different.
Some nights, he would wake me up to stay online with his login details so I could help him pick extra shifts before others grabbed them at midnight. While he was on the warehouse floor, I was at home refreshing his portal, doing fastest fingers, reading for my course and applying for jobs.
During his breaks, we would chat online.
He would come home to a prepared meal and rest.
Sometimes we would sit together and calculate cheaper logistics routes.
There was a time I escorted him on foot for almost 25 minutes every morning just so he could catch a bus to meet his pickup junction on time.
He always informed me when he got to work.
Always told me his itinerary.
One day I asked him:
“Why are you rushing to pick extra shifts when others are resigning?”
He said:
“My wife and kids are my motivation. Whenever I think about you, I get strength. The job doesn’t feel hard again.”
It took a lot from me to finally convince him to leave that warehouse after he got a proper engineering job in his field.
Today, when we drive past some places, we laugh.
We pass the first house we rented.
The second company he worked for.
The first engineering job he got in the UK.
We remember the days he rode a bicycle to work.
His first bicycle accident.
The scars from some of the jobs he did.
Just a few days ago, we drove past those places with our kids on a fun outing and laughed like we were watching a movie of our past.
Sometimes people see you and assume the worst.
They don’t understand that many hardworking men are not driven by fear.
They are driven by love.
He was happy doing all he did.
Happy coming home to a wife he could be vulnerable with.
Happy building a future with someone who stood with him in the struggle.
This is an experience some people may never have in their entire life —
because they mock the kind of love that builds empires.
In this life, you don’t just need a partner.
You need a teammate.
And when you find one, protect it. ❤️
NARD TICS: The Journey Thus Far..
It is not over, until it is over
Good evening Distinguished NARDites
I greet you Militantly,
The National Executive Council of the Nigerian Association of Resident Doctors has resolved to Suspend the ongoing Total, Indefinite and Comprehensive Strike action.
After a series of Conciliatory Meetings with the Federal Government, a Memorandum of Understanding has been signed detailing where the state of the 19-point demand of NARD stands.
The outstanding issues at the stage of
implementation are as follows:
A. Promotion Arrears: Compilation hasn’t been completed by CMDs/MDs and as such deadline for payment is in 4 weeks.
B. Salary Arrears: Deadline for payment has been agreed at 4 weeks.
C. Specialist Allowance: OHCSF has issued a clear direction on this. NSIWC to take appropriate action with a view to implementation.
D. Lokoja 5: Committee report recommended reabsorption back into FTH Lokoja to be fully implemented within 2 weeks.
Observations From the MOU signed between NARD and Government:
The MOU as signed is summarily posited as below:
1. NARD is in the process of completing the processes of the failed payments/omissions on the 25/35% and Accoutrement Allowance for NARDites for payment
2. List of Residents for upgrade are currently being awaited from centre leaders to ensure proper completion of the upgrade processes.
3. The PAT has been released.
4. Skipping/Entry Level issue has been resolved with a clear directive from OHCSF.
5. HO issues have been resolved.
6. The Directive on stopping all obnoxious clauses for Locum has been issued to CMDs/MDs in the interim.
7. The advisory on limiting call duties and ensuring breaks in between calls has been sent to CMDs/MDs in the interim.
8. The Committees for LOCUM and WORK HOUR REGULATION (4. and 5. above) are to each take two months to produce a working policy moving forward.
9. CBA is to continue as soon as possible.
10. Consultant Cadre for other Health Professionals to be discussed during (7.) above.
11. Special pensions committee to resume its sittings.
The NEC in its wisdom looked at the issues as above and decided it is better to suspend the TICS for four weeks to allow room and show this uncommon gesture while we follow up implementation.
Progress has been made, significantly. This is simply because of the efforts and convictions of NARDites across the country.
Mistakes have also been made, kindly rest those mistakes solely on my shoulders as President.
My next task as President is to use this four weeks window carved out by the NEC (in good faith) to ensure that we once again take our case to Nigerians and the Federal Government.
Failure to ensure the full implementation of the above A, B, C, D, will mean the lifting of the suspension on the strike action by NEC and the resumption of TICS.
As we deliberate these issues, remain resolute and full of sincerity of purpose. We will continue to win.
The Countdown for the Four Weeks shall start on Monday. It shall be a daily reminder to Nigerians and the Federal Government to adequately use this ‘four weeks window’ justly and fully.
IT IS NOT OVER, UNTIL IT IS OVER…
As Always,
Once again,
Yours Militantly,
P-MUS of @nard_nigeria
29:11:2025
Enough said! Doctors working hours should be regulated. You can’t trust the judgment of an overworked doctor. Even the most skilled doctors can miss what’s right in front of them when exhaustion sets in.
Yesterday, I stumbled upon a study that analyzed the causes of death for over 8,000 doctors and examined how their specialties influenced their life expectancy.
The findings? Shocking, even my own specialty is implicated 🤯
Here are 12 key findings (A MUST READ for every Doctor!)
🧵👇
Trump cutting funds to PEPFAR, what does it mean?
Nigeria has the world's second highest number of people living with HIV.
If you don't treat HIV, almost everyone affected will develop AIDS.
To treat HIV, they need ART drugs and these drugs have become so effective that a HIV positive person can no longer transmit the virus if the level of the virus is suppressed.
These drugs are expensive, so a lot of the drugs available are donated to us.
Now that donation has been cut, what does this mean?
If Nigeria doesn't rise to the occasion and take charge:
1. Infections will rise, currently it's close to 200000 infections every year
2. People will die from AIDS, drugs are not available.
3. Our already burdened healthcare system will be burdened further which might be make or break.
These are just a snippet of the ripple effect. Let's not forget that diseases like tuberculosis and malaria are being affected also by the pause of funding.
Now is the time to take our health system seriously, the second best time was yesterday.
Nigeria can not continue to depend on donations for its own healthcare.
If you're in your 20s:
- Experiment with new paths
- Start your business failures now
- Study the opposite of your beliefs
- Challenge yourself with new interests
The worst thing you can do is stop learning, growing, and changing your mind after leaving the school system.
If you were not born into wealth,
If you never inherited huge money,
If you never won millions from a lottery,
If you are not into entertainment,
If you are not into high paying tech,
If you are not an elite sportsperson,
If your parents are not rich and you are from an average/struggling family in Nigeria before you travelled abroad;
Chasing generational wealth as a primary priority being a first-generation immigrant from Nigeria, whose family back home is not wealthy, is very unrealistic.
Let me explain.
If you left Nigeria as the first person in your family to escape that economic hellhole, what we call japa, we are actually economic refugees.
You will most likely be working in an average salary job that won’t pay too much money after tax deductions. You will have many monthly bills to pay (rent, light/energy, WiFi, internet, phone, water, council, transport/car loan, food, etc); and many times, you may also have school fees debt to repay, you may have your parents to support and your siblings to fund.
So if what I just described is your reality, and it is infact the reality for many of us immigrants, please how is generational wealth your primary priority? How can it be?
The average person in the uk working full time will make £1,500-£2,500 monthly after tax. By the time you pay all the bills I listed above and try to send something home, again I ask you, where is this fantasy of “generational wealth” going to come from?
Don’t get me wrong:
It’s okay to want generational wealth for your children and your children’s children after them. But what I am saying is that, you may not be the wealthy one now, but you can kickstart the process that two or three generations down the line, will be wealthy. But don’t get obsessed trying to be wealthy and feel like a failure when you don’t.
Find consolation in knowing you have made a decision that puts your children in a far better starting point in life than your own parents did for you.
Let me tell you a story:
There was an Indian man who migrated from Pakistan to Kenya in 1937. He had a son who migrated to the uk, studied medicine, met and married an Indian woman pharmacist in uk who also migrated to uk from Tanzania.
His son, the doctor in uk, made huge sacrifices to send his own son (the man’s grandson) to oxford university. The grandson graduated first class.
Many years down the line, in 2022, that Indian man’s grandson became the British first ever Asian prime minister. This is the true life story of the last uk prime minister Rishi Sunak.
Nobody knows his father or his grandfather. But it was their hard-work, sacrifices, courage to always seek a better life even if it meant making the tough choice to travel to a new country; this is what eventually resulted in the generational success that Rishi Sunak is today.
I think a lot of us Nigerians tend to worry about the wrong thing at the wrong time.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The idea of “building wealth” from a place of average earnings is an unrealistic notion that will only cause personal disappointment and innate resentment at oneself- even though you are absolutely doing well for yourself.
The obsession of comparison with others - who you don’t know what families they are from and what work they actually do- can make you lose sight of how far you have come in your own journey and how much you have accomplished in your own story.
Your journey. Your story. Your success.
This is what matters. This is what is important. Not what someone else, or anybody else, thinks about it.
You know yourself. You know your journey. You know your story. Be proud of how far you’ve come.
Don’t ever allow anybody make you feel like a nobody in your own story, a story where you have successfully made yourself something out of almost nothing.
Remember:
Life is in phases and in stages.
And as long as your today is better than your yesterday, you are still in the game, you can still win and your story is not over yet.