Ben Harvey

Actor • Writer • Currently Based in London/Belfast ☘️ • CAFC

[Ben Harvey @bharvey2001]

My club

[Michael Livesley @NowtofTown]

Norman Balon, legendary landlord of Soho's Coach & Horses and self-styled rudest landlord in London, has left the stage at 99. A fixture of Soho life for six decades and forever woven into the mythos of Jeff Bernard via Keith Waterhouse and Peter O'Toole. A long life, well lived.

[The AFC Lane @The_AFC_Lane]

I will never forget this day for the rest of my life.

The day I finally watched my football club win the Premier League.

Every single one of those players is an absolute legend in my eyes.

The Arsenal, this is what we do.

[Michael Warburton @For_Film_Fans]

The late great PETER O’TOOLE outside one of his favourite watering holes, the famous Coach & Horses — Soho in 1999.

[becca @beccaisnotokay]

THE WAY NOEL PULLS LIAM TO FINISH WHATEVER HES SAYING MY BABIES PLEASE NEVER STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER AGAIN

[Second Tier podcast @secondtierpod]

Fair play

[Charlton Athletic FC @CAFCofficial]

Back on home soil 😍

It's MATCHDAY! 💪

#cafc

[Paul Mescal Archive @mescalarchive]

New look at Paul Mescal as Paul McCartney on the set of ‘THE BEATLES’ films

[The Away Fans @theawayfans]

If you spent your childhood collecting these, you grew up properly...

[Amazon MGM Studios @AmazonMGMStudio]

Good morning to Walton Goggins fans only. #Fallout

[Dexerto @Dexerto]

The Fallout TV show has a mystery countdown on their website

Fans believe Bethesda is planning a Fallout 3 remaster 'shadowdrop' when the timer ends

[Stranger News @StrangerNews11]

MAX, IT’S TIME. #VOL2

[The People's MMA 🦈 @ThePeoplesMMA]

*record scratch*

*freeze frame*

"Yep, that's me. You're probably wondering how I got here."

[Ben Harvey @bharvey2001]

@Dorgan_higgins How much?

[The Stone Roses Unseen @tsrunseen]

Mani was the one member of The Stone Roses who vocalised frequently he wanted a reunion to happen. No wonder when he went on stage at @PyramidParrHall back in 2012 this was his reaction 💥 👊🏻

[Noel Gallagher @NoelGallagher]

RIP Brother. It was a pleasure to have known you.

[Fallout @Fallout]

To every adventurer who has carved their path across the Wasteland, from New California to the Commonwealth, today we celebrate you. #FalloutDay

A big Vault Boy thumbs up to our friends at @PosterPosse for this outstanding artwork, illustrated by @RhafaelAseo!

[Stan Collymore @StanCollymore]

Suicide.

I'm choosing to be deliberately blunt and provocative in this post because it's necessary. Government, charities, football clubs are all pushing water up a hill in highlighting what is undoubtedly a major health crisis.

You take a rope.
You put it up in a garage or a tree nearby or far away.
You're thinking about every loved one you'll leave behind as you put that rope around your neck.
Then you drop.

Some are decapitated.
Some aren't.
All are found by someone who has a lifetime of trauma that will never leave them.
A son.
A daughter.
A brother.
A sister.
A mother.
A father.

I know 2 men who hung themselves.

One was found by his Mom.
One was found by his brother.
Neither have recovered fully. 20 and 30 years on.

A life sentence for people who were already worrying, terrified their loved one may do something.

So just visualise the above and ask, "is there another way"?

A segway for a moment.

I do a few Q&A's every year. Tales of yesterday with a 99% male audience of my age group.

After the stories and fun, my last question back to the audience is..

"Hands up if you struggle with a mental health issue".

Nobody ever puts a hand up. Despite 1 in every 3 of 500 attendees statistically struggling.

"Ah, nobody, that's fucking brilliant! Well I do! ". I then graphically tell people, stunned into silence about how a rope around my neck in the middle of nowhere jolted me to go home and cry like a baby to my Mom.

After the Q&A has finished, something always happens. I'll be chatting to a few guys, saying bye and one by one, men will come over and whisper " I struggle".

Or my mailbox the next day will have 30 emails from guys, their partners or kids saying " Dad/Uncle /Brother was there last night and what you said hit them hard".

And that's how some people realise that it's time to speak to a pal or family member or even rant to me in an email. It works, I often get a follow up email a year or 6 later saying that they took responsibility for their suicidal feelings and are now flying.

Humans are programmed to want to live, to have families and to keep the species growing and thriving. So for a human to want to short circuit that desire isn't normal, and it should never be spoken of as normal. It's the ultimate red flag.

If you suspect your mate, Dad, Brother, Uncle is struggling mentally, they deserve your intervention.

They deserve a " are you OK, please tell me what's up".

They deserve an opportunity to get past wanting to hang a rope over a tree or in a garage and slowly struggle until they die and you find them.

If you've been there and trust me I have plenty, then you'll know that text out of the blue, or a footie mate or one of your kids asking jow you are can open the curtains to some sunshine.

Because when suicide is your only answer, the room is already dark, and you can't see a way out.

So please, fucking pretty please, ask that husband, Dad, Uncle, Cousin, footie pal TODAY how they are.

You may be shocked what comes back but extremely glad that you asked.

For those who struggle, you're not alone.

[Ben Harvey @bharvey2001]

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[Carol Challis @BeingBoycie]

Sullivan loved Pat’s Mickey Pearce.