There is no situation where it's appropriate to publicly say your wife/husband isn't your spec. None. 💀
Your spouse is your life partner, & anything that could make them feel "less than" should never come from you.
So saying they weren't your spec at first glance is bad, & whatever explanation or compliment you add afterward doesn't erase that “you’re not my preference at first but...”
Some things simply don't need to be said.
My dream is for WhatsApp to include the option to disable voice note. When someone tries to send one, a message will appear that says, "You can't send voice notes to this user, TYPE."