Y’all lack communication skills because instead of taking what the other person is saying into consideration... You become defensive because you only listening to defend the points that make you look bad. That's the disconnect right there.
i think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this and only thinking about others.
Relationships are so beautiful when you and your partner are actually good friends. You show up together, share inside jokes, talk openly, have fun, and totally vibe like besties. They shouldn’t replace your actual friends but it’s so amazing when the dynamic isn't just romantic.