Men who don’t rape women are not special.
Men who don’t cheat are not special.
Men who treat women as equals are not special.
Men who cook in their own homes and take care of their children are not special.
Men who respect consent are not progressive.
Men who don’t make rape jokes are not revolutionary.
Men who don’t harass women on the street are not heroes.
Men who don’t expect praise for basic decency are not rare gems.
Men who don’t control what their partners wear are not enlightened.
Men who don’t weaponize money, religion, or culture to dominate women are not extraordinary.
Men who listen without interrupting, who don’t mansplain, who don’t feel threatened by women’s ambition are not unicorns.
This is baseline. This is what a normal man does.
If my daughter grows up one day, I would tell her before choosing a man, take time to understand how he was raised. His family background, the kind of father he has, how his father treats his mother. Because those things shape a man’s emotional and mental well-being, and they strongly influence the kind of partner he will become.
It’s not easy to change a man. And it’s not easy to find someone with empathy, emotional maturity, and common sense, unless he had good role models while growing up.
And if you really want your mind blown? Ask any woman how old they were the very first time they felt objectified/sexualized by a man, or had something inappropriate said to them, or had something “not quite right” happen to them. Most of us were children the first time.
just APOLOGIZE to your partner when you know you messed up bruh… all that manipulative behavior and getting mad at them for being upset when they have a valid reason is just weird. people love to say they’re grown until it’s time to take accountability.