I believe that people's actions can make it clear that they have no respect or regard for you, regardless of what they say. Their actions clearly indicate that they don't value you. when you notice this, take it for what is.
teaching your adult family how to treat you as an adult truly is exhausting. i think everyone still sees the twelve year old, who is gonna do whatever she's told to do. i am a grown ass woman now and i am gonna do whatever tf i feel like doing. i value my time/space/energy.