......I was shocked the day my colleagues back in Naija told me that:
Guy, amongst all of us, na you only marry beta wife. Na you we dey always complain give! 🤣
I was like, all of una na traditional men naa, make una enjoy!
Me and my wife na freestyle gangstas! We believe that there is no marriage in heaven, so we gats bare it all here.
I dey wash pants join. I dey iron baby pants/socks after washing them. I dey iron everybody clothes for house. She makes the best fucking food and snacks that all of you still rush to share with me at work.
She knows my salary and any other kobo benefits at every stage of my life. But una own no know una salary! You all want your wives to be calling you "My Lord."
How do you want to know Peace? 🤣 They were just looking at me!
I swear I’m not making this up.
One day we wanted to cook but there was no money to buy fish or meat. Mum gathered us together and we prayed. We said a short prayer, and about an hour later it rained and we caught 3 fishes right in front of our house.
Another time, we only had garri at home. After drinking garri in the morning and afternoon, nobody wanted it again for dinner. So mum made eba, put it inside a cooler, and said the Lord will provide soup. Around 8pm, a woman in the neighbourhood brought vegetable soup and said she felt led in her spirit to bring it for us. Another answered prayer.
Me, I’ve seen God’s power for myself and I know miracles are real.
Humanity 😭❤️
So this mum posts about her son Levi who has been fighting leukaemia and is always in the hospital.
But this time, this year he will be celebrating his birthday at home but sadly doesn't have any friends cos he is always in d hospital.
Now she posts and asks if people can just drive by and say hello and happy birthday to her son between 2 and 3pm and this was how people showed up for her.
13th April, 13 years, 13 kisses 🥰 & More…
Kiss me again…
Because of the love & kisses of Jesus, we still kiss today. Thank You Lord for 13 !
Happy anniversary babe !
When I hear the people saying “oh you guys should discuss your roles before you enter marriage”, I laugh.
Because it’s either you’re not married or you’re not even living this thing we call life
Because one thing you will discover very quickly is that life will life always
And the best thing that can happen to you when life is lifing is to have a partner that can shapeshift and become what is needed for that season
How would we have planned to find ourselves in a new country where my husband can only work 20hours because policy changed?
How do you plan for policy change that was not even in your country
Will I say I won’t work and have my salary go to almost 80 percent of the bills between agreed he’ll be the primary provider?
How was I supposed to know tha I would have post partum high blood pressure after my baby and get vision so blurry I could not make my way around the kitchen
Will my husband not enter kitchen because we agreed I would do all the cooking?
Life happens
Seasons change
Sometimes your spouse is out of A Job and you need to hold down the fort
Will you be doing my money is my money then?
Or you’ll not change diaper when your wife is exhausted because in your village men don’t do child care?
Marriage is not by force oo
If you don’t want to morph, stay single and rigid.
This woman woke up at 4 AM in 20° cold, worked out for two hours, faced a packed college Monday… and her first thought?
“I woke up this morning. I’m healthy. I get to move my body. I get to learn. And above all—Jesus loves me. Not because of anything I’ve done. Just because I’m His.”
No complaints. Just tears of gratitude.
A beautiful reminder: The greatest privilege isn’t the workout, the degree, or the sunrise—it’s waking up known and loved by our Creator.
If you’re breathing today, you’re already blessed beyond measure.
Don’t let the noise steal your thankfulness.
He loves you more than you’ll ever grasp.
“Sister Debbie, how do I know who to marry?”
I can’t tell you the number of times I get this message
I want to share something with you and it may get a bit gory so please brace yourself
I got pregnant immediately after our wedding and when I was 6 months pregnant, my water broke prematurely and I had to be admitted.
You know this story already.
What you don’t know is the behind the scenes
It was not funny. I was leaking amniotic fluid day in and day out. At times it was dripping at times it was gushing.
My husband and I were the only ones facing something we both have never faced. Our marriage was just 6 months old.
Because of the severity of what was happening, we had to be super careful and manage my movements so the water does not leak too much and so that the amniotic fluid is still enough to carry my baby till at least 35 weeks
I looked so horrible because I couldn’t bathe for days at a time.
If you saw my hair? You would just run. Because I couldn’t afford any movement so grooming was a luxury I could not afford.
There were times out of nowhere I would just start bleeding
There were times I could not do “number two”. Because apparently being stationary does not allow you have good bowel movements.
One day it got so bad I thought I would die. My husband was in the toilet with me as I was trying to do this and it was not working. This man was ready to help bring this thing out if possible.
I told you it was gory.
Yet there was not day my husband did not look at me like was the prettiest woman in the world.
Every he had to still work.
He would cook and bring to the hospital every single day, go to work, cook and bring again, and sleep on the hard chair beside my bed
We did this for 3 months.
Now let me answer this question:
Marry someone that can do hard things with you and for you.
Marry someone that thinks you’re beautiful even when your hair is not combed and your mouth is not brushed yet.
Marry someone that when hard times show up, they roll up their sleeeves and say “what can I do”?
Life is hard. And even though we don’t pray for it the truth is that sometimes storms show up.
Marry a partner who is good in the storm. Who is emotionally stable enough to brace storms.
Who won’t say he went to sleep with another woman because you were pregnant or you’re healing from postpartum wounds
Anybody can love you when you have on a pretty dress and smell like daffodils dipped in chocolate vanilla
Only a “husband” can love you even on days when bathing brushing are luxuries you can’t afford
Blessings!
A good time to make this spread and trend again…….
Let’s go !
Jesus just has to be who He says He is. No one gives this joy that He gives.
We celebrate our king, JESUS !
Go out there boldly and do what you have to do. The moment you let people’s fear, doubt, or opinions slow you down, you’ve already lost.
When I made my first film, ALLofUS, the tweets under the trailer? They could’ve discouraged anybody. LMAO.
Fast-forward to today: the first episode is sitting at 5.6 million views. We were walking on the streets of Ghana (not my home country) and people were literally calling us by our character names.
I didn’t even know people hyped 1M views like that, because I was too busy reading comments and letting noise steal my joy instead of celebrating the win.🥹
So forget the naysayers. Keep your eyes on the prize. You’re the one with the vision, you know what you’re doing.
Ignore the noise. Lock in. Stay focused. Get to it. 🔥