@fastrlife How I unlocked this was my mind accepting death while my body continued to reject it. The juxtaposition of existing in such a mental frame for so long became my “calm in a storm” now I do even feel the physiogical trait of anxiety and I have stopped overthinking. Endurance paid!
@MasculinePeak This is genuinely so fucking dumb. Just be you. Stop with the bullshit mind games. If you feel connected, lean into that.
Women are not objects to play with, they are human beings that need love and affection just as much as you do, even if you don’t want to admit it yourself.
@MasculinePeak My skepticism bullshit -O- meter went straight through as soon as this post dropped. Smells like fresh crop from the south end of a north facing water buffalo.
@MasculinePeak Dr Myles munroe asked me to cuddle my baby girls. I don’t know who tf you are asking me to go to bed cold and lonely but fuck you you have zero authority over anybody to post this kind of crazy. Asylum people are everywhere now handing out advice.
Many parents subtly motivate their children via the offering and withholding of love.
This mechanism then gets transferred into how many people motivate themselves.
Their mind / heart withholds love from itself until certain conditions are met.
It says: until I am like this, or I have that, or the world is like this, then I will not give myself love.
Learning how to give yourself unconditional love is one of the biggest free gifts you can offer yourself.
It is possible to live in a state where your default baseline stance towards yourself is love.
You love yourself when you fail, when you are lazy, when you act poorly, even when you are unhappy.
Counterintuitively, this unconditional positive self-regard has a beneficial side effect of making laziness, bad behaviour and unhappiness less common too (perhaps not failure, as to succeed at most worthwhile endeavours usually requires constant failure along the way).
Feeling love for ourselves even when feeling unhappy is a particularly interesting phenomena as it reveals how little suffering there actually is in temporary states of unhappiness when they are held with love.
Also, when we are no longer tensing up against the possibility of having to withdraw love from ourselves, it is a lot easier to act effectively and lots of energy is freed up.
We also start to become motivated by what we actually value in our lives rather than pleasing some inner judge of worthiness.
Of course, cultivating unconditional love for ourselves also makes it a lot easier to give and receive love from others.
Unconditional self-love is one of the closest cousins to unconditional happiness and much more within reach for most.
Cultivating it is a fertile ground for beginning any spiritual journey.
Hopefully it happens to you.
Nightfall gives a black colour to all but your most clear contemplations.
You wake up from your dreamlike state to see how you’ve been living. How far away your life is from what you know you’re capable of. How many of your natural talents you have allowed to decay due to a lack of urgency and direction. How many times you said yes out of obligation or guilt when the “no” stuck in your throat would have given you the momentum you needed. How much time has vanished, never to be accounted for.
You wake up with a sufficient amount of disgust to get started.
New heights become available to you only after you experience that day.