Toxic Masculinity is NOT:
- Having a beer with the boys.
- Barbecuing.
- Hunting/Fishing.
- Playing Sport.
- Taking the Piss.
- Enjoying traditionally masculine things.
- Having a beard.
Toxic Masculinity IS:
- Treating Women as sex objects.
-"Lad Culture" and "Locker Room Talk".
- Resorting to violence to resolve differences.
- Using "boys will be boys" as an excuse for
bad behaviour.
- Feeling like it's not ok to talk about your emotions.
-Homophobia and fragility when males don't display "typically masculine" traits (wearing makeup, wearing different clothes, dancing etc).
- Domestic Violence.
@eternalisaa@marxistnila Does this apply to trans men too? Are they also oppressing? Or do you not count them as men?
Transphobe or bioessentialist. Call it
The artist behind this painting, Criselda Vasquez, painted this portrait of her parents in 2017. The man in this painting, her father, was recently taken by ICE. He has lived in the United States for forty years. This loss has made it hard for the family to support themselves. If you want to support them, you can go to their GoFundMe here:
https://t.co/Mgp7W8m5xJ
"Linen is for summer, wool is for winter"
Not true. Fabric weight and weave matter more than fiber. A lightweight, open weave wool will wear cooler than a heavy, dense linen. To find comfortable clothes for summer, consider fabric weight, fabric weave, and garment construction.
A mi me puede gustar su música y mucho, pero su doble moral aburre y mucho.
No le gusta el capitalismo y cada vez saca más productos, no le gusta el la ganadería pero colabora con marcas que experimentan con animales. Es pro Palestina pero canta públicamente con sionistas 🤷🏽♀️
To break this down:
The rule the person stated below is not even the correct "rule." The "rule," if there's even a rule, is that your socks should match your trousers. Barring that, they should be navy.
Where does this "rule" come from? It comes from the first half of the 20th century, when much of Western male dress was shaped by the ruling class, who, at the time, still wore tailored clothing. By ruling class, I mean groups such as British aristocrats, Italian industrialists, and American WASPs who could trace their lineage back to the Mayflower.
For people in this group, proper sock choice fell into one of two categories. The first is that the socks should match the trousers: gray trousers with gray socks, tan trousers with tan socks, etc. Alternatively, navy socks were always considered correct with everything except black trousers, which required black socks.
Of course, some people broke this rule in cheeky ways, such as wearing pale lemon yellow socks with khaki chinos to add a bit of unexpected color. But the aforementioned two pairings constituted the general "rule."
When people state this as a "rule," they are trying to universalize something that was once subjective. In other words, they are trying to add a certain logic to something once practiced by the ruling class. So we invent a certain logic to this practice, such as saying wearing socks that match your trousers elongates your leg line. While this may be true (even if not for the navy sock), what we're really trying to do is make a cultural practice seem rational and scientific. This can be insidious when it applies to the practices and habits of the ruling class, because you are framing a subjective cultural practice as logically superior.
But regardless, it's no longer the case that British aristocrats, Italian industrialists, and American WASPs (Old Money) dictate the proper ways of dressing and speaking for everyone. There are plenty of groups that dress in ways that are either opposed to these groups (e.g., punks) or have nothing to do with them (e.g., avant-garde). Many of these groups possess cultural capital, which gives their style an "aura."
Therefore, you can't universalize this rule without first stating the context. Are you trying to dress like Prince Charles in 1980? Or Sid Vicious? If the latter, then the idea of matching socks to trousers makes no sense, as that's not how socks were worn in that particular group.
There's an entire cottage industry online of people proclaiming certain "style rules." "Men shouldn't wear shorts." "Here's how shirts should fit." "Here are the best color combinations." If you absorb all this advice, you end up with a very generic aesthetic, similar to how video game designers dress characters in The Sims.
IMO, if you want to figure out how to wear socks, you should identify a certain segment of culture that inspires you, whether historical or contemporary, and learn the language of that aesthetic.
About fifteen years ago, talking about this stuff was easier online because people were segmented into style communities — classic tailoring, workwear, streetwear, avant-garde — each group huddled around certain forums and blogs. These communities gave the discussions context. If you were in a community obsessed with how to dress like a 1960s Ivy League student, then no one would have to spell out the intention, as it was assumed. This made discussing the "rules" easier.
But on Twitter, there is no consensus. Therefore, it's not reasonable to proclaim things like "wear this sock with these shoes" or "this is how all pants should fit." Everything depends on how you want to dress.
I grew up in a dark place. I love my family and I’m grateful for the lessons I learned but I suffered a lot along the way. When I was in high school I saw a Craigslist ad of a farm looking to get rid of some puppies. I drove 2 hours in my beat up Acura and with my money saved from my retail job I bought my best friend. I named him Swift. He became a light that I never knew I could have.
I didn’t know what true love was before him. I had never had the chance to witness it. But I quickly learned the definition because of him. He held me thru breakups and hard ships. He held me when I lost my mom. He held me when I lost my identity. He held me when I couldn’t get up. Some struggles I’ve faced over the years made me wonder if I should be alive or if I should let myself go. But I always had a tether holding me. My beautiful boy who loved me unconditionally in a way that kept me here. Some days I didn’t even have it in me to get out of bed and Swift would remind me it’s time to get up. I have never loved anyone or anything the way I love Swift.
For 15 years he was the light of my life. The reason for my world. And now he’s not here. I don’t know how I’m going to survive.
For 15 years he was the first thing I saw in the morning and the last thing I saw before falling asleep.
When we would go for walks he wouldn’t watch the path he would turn back and constantly make sure I was still with him. What he didn’t know is I needed him as much as he needed me.
To say I’m heart broken is an understatement. I’m shattered down to my core. The only consistent love I’ve ever had in my life is gone. I would move mountains for Swift, and I promise I fucking tried. I’ve lost a part of my soul with him.
I wish I could do more. I wish I got more. I would give anything in the world right now to have him next to me. I’ve experienced a lot of grief in my life but this is a rare kind. I’ve loved Swift more than I loved myself on numerous occasions. I would do it all again. Every appointment, every cancelled plan, every adjustment in my schedule to make sure he got what he needed. I love that dog more than I love life itself. I hope he knows that. Thank you all for loving him too.
how to life maxx more:
> get off your phone
> say yes to spontaneous plans even when you're tired - some of the best nights are unplanned
> talk to strangers - at coffee shops, events, literally anywhere. serendipity maxx
> make a bucket list and work your way through said bucket list!!
> stop opting for boring hangs. switch things up with your friends. try something new!!
> start a random hobby just for fun - pottery, dance, improv, cooking. not everything needs to "be productive" ok??
> be 5% more silly in your life. dance in your room, sing badly in the car, crack a bad joke. it's not that serious. grow the silly muscle
> surround yourself with people who make you feel lighter - your time and energy is precious
> don't forget the basics: move your body, get sunlight, take your vitamins, eat well, sleep
> your time to live life is happening NOW so stop saving it for later!!
get off those phones & out into the real world people!!
lets go PLAY!!!
To add I think there's a distinct art style for medieval fantasy aesthetics pre-Millennium, compared to how it is now
I've seen people attribute this to the LotR films though I'd be curious to know if there are any other influences
Just a visual style that we don't have anymore
These yellow pit stains are usually caused by deodorant or antiperspirant mixing with your sweat. You can remove them by spraying the area with 3% hydrogen peroxide. Let this sit for an hour and then throw the garment into the wash. For more stubborn stains, soak the garment in Oxiclean overnight, then wash. Note that Oxiclean is fine on certain fibers (e.g., cotton), but not others (e.g., silk). Always read labels before using a product.