My husband quit tech and ran a home improvement business for about a year. He was actually pretty good at it, had more business than he could take.
He went back to tech. Turns out it's unending 12 hour days and body pain for 1/3 the money.
For the farmer folks.
@CharityW4CTI Give me experience with technical know-how any day over that useless cert on its own merit. Also, be able to just get shit done. Cool cert tho. Good luck.
everyone always asks me “what did you do to lose the weight?”, and my answer is always “i focused on healing my mind so that i could eventually focus on healing my body.”
i’d tried time and time again to lose weight, but it’d never stuck. i always viewed weight loss as a time of my life that would be temporary - i only needed to eat healthy and workout for a few months and then magically i’d just be healthy, right? that’s what my brain thought. reflecting back to that time of my life - i also don’t think that i thought i DESERVED to be healthy. there weren’t many things i liked about myself.
the year was 2020/2021 and everything that was supposed to be transforming my life in a positive way was actually sucking the life out of me. i lost so much that year; there was a lot of pain. the only possible way i thought i could somehow have a chance of making it through that period of my life was if i - for the first time ever - prioritized myself. if i invested in myself, believed in myself, stopped listening to the voices in my mind telling me that i would fail, if i finally chose to commit to living a new lifestyle that would set the tone for the future i so badly craved.
i made a commitment to myself that i would never be the woman i used to be - the one who felt an immense amount of disappointment in herself just by looking in a mirror, the one who allowed life to pass by because she was so terrified of being temporarily uncomfortable, the one who turned to unhealthy habits of binging food as opposed to doing the work inside of herself to heal.
i became comfortable with being uncomfortable. i actively began to seek out discomfort - by going to therapy, by speaking about the things it hurt so badly to speak about, by being HONEST with myself about how i got to the point of my life i was at, by ending a 6 year relationship, by moving continents, by reconnecting with myself on a deeper level, by consistently showing up for myself at the gym - a place i’d never really had the courage to go before.
it was once i consistently kept my commitment to myself to show up, to work hard, to be determined to be the best version of myself - that it started coming true.
i’ve lost anywhere between 80-90 pounds given the week i step on the scale, but doing so required coming to grips with all of the baggage, sadness, and trauma that was (is!) stored inside of my mind. having the courage and commitment to continuously show up for yourself when the results could be weeks, months, or years down the road is one of the most challenging things i’ve ever faced…
but i can also tell you that it was/is worth it more than i ever could have imagined.
the freedom to explore and take on this world in a mind and body that are healthy is something i will never take for granted.
1/ A bit of faffing about on the anti-anti-Trump right at the moment. I know, I know you hate us with the fire of 1000 Suns, but you don't get to escape as easily as "I love Ron DeSantis! He's DREAMY!"
God, after 7 fucking years, don't you get it?
If you own a telescope, spread the love. I just spent the whole night showing trick-or-treaters Saturn and Jupiter. Watching them (and their parents) suddenly realize space is quite accessible is incredibly gratifying. Space is up there waiting for everyone to discover it.