Dating an ADHD person be like:
1. They say “I miss you” like it’s a full-time job… then forget to reply for 36 hours and come back like no time passed.
2. You’re never ignored on purpose, you’re just competing with 47 urgent thoughts, a forgotten snack, and a sudden urge to reorganize the universe.
3. They’ll plan a perfect date, get excited, mentally live it 12 times… then arrive late because they got stuck in a “quick reset” that turned into a life crisis shower.
4. Emotional consistency? No. Emotional intensity? Absolutely. You might get a love confession, a breakdown, and a joke about dying alone, all in one evening.
5. They remember the exact tone you used when you said “I’m fine” three months ago… but can’t remember if they already replied to your message while actively typing a reply.
6. “Just one quick task” is a lie they believe every time, right before disappearing into a rabbit hole of cleaning, overthinking, or staring at the wall with a snack.
7. They love you loudly, messily, and sincerely… but sometimes the delivery system is on airplane
Millennials watched their parents lose everything in 2008. Then got handed $100K in student debt. Then got called entitled for wanting a living wage. Then survived a pandemic in our prime years. Then got priced out of every neighborhood we grew up in. And y’all really wonder why we’re not okay? We’ve been in survival mode for 20 years straight and nobody even noticed.
People with ADHD have what’s called an “interest-based nervous system.” They literally can’t force themselves to care about things that bore them.
It’s not a choice. It’s not willpower. Their brains physically won’t produce the neurochemicals needed to engage unless something triggers interest, urgency, novelty, or challenge.
ADHD is a malfunctioning priority filter where your brain decides that researching the evolutionary history of the domestic cat is a "Tier 1 Emergency," while the life-altering deadline you have in three hours is merely a "vague suggestion" from a stranger you’ve never met.
@hurricanemuse Those who are feeling negative are never going to let this go & will always reference it even if the band does address & apologize. These ppl went back to the beginning of time to find one thing to berate the band about & publicly berate & shame them. Just burn the damn bandanas.
I told my therapist:
“I’m not suicidal…
but I’m tired in a way that scares me.”
She didn’t brush it off.
She didn’t say “everyone gets tired.”
She didn’t tell me to think positive.
She said softly:
my therapist told me, "stop assuming people are mad at you. Stop attempting to read people's minds. stop trying to manage the thoughts and emotions of others. let people be in charge of themselves. if they have something to say to you they will and if they don't it is their responsibility not yours. overthinking kills happiness" and that hit me like a brick.
@boybandism Exactly. If she hurts herself or worse it will always follow Michael & his family worse that a damn phone # that is easily changed. How many phone #s do celebrities go through anyways? I’m sure it’s not the same he has had for years. He has likely moved on from this already. 😑
@halsey Now I just feel we are missing time at other concerts we could’ve had with the main artist we for. I hadn’t really thought of that. 🙁 but I do like The Band Camino (5SOS-June) 🤷🏻♀️
@HumansNoContext • The exhaustion of carrying something no one else can feel.
• The contrast between a polished exterior and inner turmoil.
• The isolation of fighting a battle in plain sight.
@HumansNoContext MASTERFUL: Depression can feel like a dark companion that slowly drains your energy and sense of self. It’s important to push back against it in every healthy way you can… reach out, get support, and don’t fight it alone. You deserve light in your life.