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[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

Me: “What are you doing for #Thanksgiving this year? I don’t want to have dinner with (usual).”

My 80 yo Gramma, very seriously: “Yeah, sometimes we outgrow relatives. But, at the same time, they help us to feel grounded. A paradox.”

Verbatim 🤣 savage wisdom 💀

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

@walmarthelp No shit I shouldn’t have to wait that long for my order. If you don’t have enough drivers to fulfill delivery requests at any particular time, STOP accepting delivery orders. That is how this started. Also stop hiring delivery drivers who don’t know how to use GPS.

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

@Walmart my delivery order is over 24 hrs late. The only customer service you offer is in India; the last guy I spoke to put me on hold for 20 mins, then hung up. Calling the store = endless ringing. Chat bot doesn’t help. At this point, I want my order cancelled & refunded.

[ThePOTSPostman @ThePOTSPostman]

Have you ever tried doing a normal everyday activity while simultaneously holding a large bucket of rocks?

It would probably be hard and get tiresome quick.

That’s what fatigue is like in chronic illness. Except we can’t put the bucket down, we have to always carry it.

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

@flipkid @Walmart Wow, thank you so much. I got ahold of a real person within one minute and she cancelled my order. I finally got it resolved. 😭 so grateful to you.

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

I would cancel it myself, but I cannot do that on your app or website.

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I didn’t want to resort to public shaming and I am doing my best to be respectful, but you need to email me back and rectify this situation immediately. I will persist until the issue has been resolved.

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

It seems like you decided to drop the situation? Little Dipper devices are not cheap! D/t shipping min, I bought 4 Lil Dippers in one order in late Jan; 3 broke the same way within 14 days, 1 had a dead battery. I spent ~$150 with your company & can’t use any of the products.

[phil @snarkilytm]

anyway I met lorde yesterday and let her know that she wrote melodrama for me specifically

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

@AhmarSKhan I had knee replacement surgery in April, then stayed two nights in the hospital. My gastroenterologist noticed I was there and came by to check on me and say hi 🖤

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

@bcline760 @IT1B @eejay @CBS8 This is such a stupid argument. Concerts held at stadiums is not a new phenomenon. You’d have to be really dumb to think they’d build that big, beautiful, new stadium and only hold baseball games there.

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@Justice314Lady @kaydaustin That sounds horrible and I truly hope things are better for you now, but this isn’t really the time and place to try and one-up somebody…

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

@kaydaustin The isolation and detachment from my peers’ reality hits me the hardest. I think one of the kindest things anyone has ever done for me was doordash TP, wet wipes, ginger candies, etc in the midst of an incredible crohn’s flare. They lived out of state.

But that’s not the norm.

[Katie Coleman @kaydaustin]

Cancer ghosting, let’s talk about it 👻

I took these two pictures after my first hospital admission then scrolled through my feed and cried. At 29, I found myself using a bedpan while I watched friends skiing down mountainsides. It was the first time I’d recognize how detached my life had become from my peers.

I felt jealous, bitter and threw myself a pity party over chicken broth and graham crackers while the extreme guilt set in over the fact I even had any of these emotions.

When you’re first diagnosed with cancer, your friends, family and even distant acquaintances often rally around you. The messages, phone calls and well wishes pour in, making you feel insanely supported.

But over time the support often dwindles. People go back to their lives, full of events and activities you may no longer be able to participate in. And all the “if you need anything” messages start to feel empty as you look on from afar.

There are often people you thought would be there every step of the way- who you never or rarely hear from. It can feel crushing and make you question if they ever really cared.

Here’s why I don’t fault the people in my life I experienced this with and a few insights I’ve taken away. I thought I’d share in case it’s helpful to others.

I started to feel less hurt by these experiences when I realized we all have busy lives and most people are doing their best to make it through their own day. We live in a world these days where many of us turn to social media to keep tabs on each other. Many of my friends and family saw updates online or were updated through the grapevine. They felt up-to-date on me, even though we never had contact. Others later told me, “Phewf, I’m glad you’re doing okay now. I had to stop reading your posts because it was too hard for me. I kept picturing everything that happened to you, happening to myself or my kids. I emotionally wasn’t strong enough for it. I prayed for you every night but couldn’t read your posts.” Others were at a loss for words and didn’t know what to say.

Look, cancer is hard- really hard. Not just for those of us going through it but for many of those we care about too. I personally believe it’s not about people not caring, I think it’s often people not knowing how to show up or what to say.

I think social media often amplifies the emotions and isolation. When you see others carrying on with their lives while you’re simply trying to survive, it can at times feel like they don’t care.

But what social media doesn’t show are the prayers they send up each night praying for your healing and comfort, the little reminders throughout their day that make them think of you or their compulsive checking of your page at 1am for updates looking reassurance you’re okay.

Social media has created ways for us to feel more connected than we ever have before but it can also create a valley of isolation through the hardest days.

So this is my reminder to anyone who may have loved ones they care about going through a difficult time. Don’t forget to drop the comment, send the message or pick up the phone. If you don’t know what to say, simply let them know you’re thinking about them.

Cancer ghosting I personally believe is often unintentional but a very real experience many face. I’d love for us to create a thread of practical ways to show up for others. So let’s hear your experience below. What are little ways people showed up for you during a difficult time that mean the most?

[bodaciousbrains @bodaciousbrains]

@SDCaltrans That is barely a living wage for a single person with no kids in the City 🫠

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@easler_kerryn @SDCaltrans

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@monolithik @NWSSanDiego I was thinking the same. I was in Florida for TS Nicole last year and all business had their windows shuttered days before they closed for storm. I haven’t even seen sand bags out here

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@nohomelikeplace A close friend of 9 years disappeared from my life in 2021. A year later he told me that he thought I should know why—it was bc my life was too depressing 🤣