The literal #1 most suicidal belief you can have is that you’re an introvert/socially anxious/don’t like people.
I was this guy until around 22. Thought I was better than everyone else and actively chose not to be social.
Life completely changed when I started interacting with random people and just trying to make them laugh. Opportunities opened up, made relationships with people I never thought possible. Everything was just less dull and boring. Every day was fun for no reason.
You cannot be a lone wolf. It’s a mental illness.
Life is meaningless without people.
Students often don't realize that after they graduate, the game eventually becomes 100% about what they've *actually done* and 0% about what they have the "potential" to do -- and this transition happens faster than they expect.
This can be a hard truth for students who get used to hearing "you're going to do great things" and then never take action.
But it's a welcome truth for those who are willing to put in serious work to get serious results.
Vacation brain is awesome. All I did was eat and drink and walk around and not deny myself anything so my brain is like “wow great town. I should move here. It would probably be like this every day”
You're a man. Fuck being shy. Fuck being an introvert. Strangers will make you rich. Start networking. Silence is impolite. Make small talk everywhere you go. You never know what kind of connections you'll create. Dear son, Closed mouths don't get fed.
The sad truth is that after the age of 25, there’s no one you can blame for the trajectory of your life except yourself
The good news is that you can wake up tomorrow, thank God and take the steps needed to make that change
although it’s a hard pill to swallow that no one owes you closure, i think it’s pretty cruel to not give someone that when they are extremely anxious and need it.. especially when they were once someone special to you .it’s borderline demonic #imo
Scrolling is pure evil. An hour of brainrot doesn’t just leave a hole where something meaningful could have been but also actively degrades the machinery you’d need to fill that hole.
It corrupts your capacity for sustained attention. Books become harder, conversations feel slower, your own thoughts start to bore you. Over time, the range of things that can hold your interest narrows until you’re left with a shrinking circle of stimulation that only the algorithm can satisfy.
It erodes your relationship to yourself. Curiosity fades. Compassion requires a kind of patient attention that atrophies. You stop wondering what you care about because the question itself feels effortful. What’s left is a stable, “comfortable” numbness. Not only five years subtracted from your life, but a slow hollowing out of the person who would have lived them.
The research behind this is wild. Your face as a kid shaped how teachers treated you, how many friends you made, how much practice you got being social, and even how much money you earn right now. It starts before you can crawl.
Babies just hours old already prefer attractive faces. Researchers at the University of Exeter showed newborns (average age: 2 days) pairs of faces and tracked which ones they stared at longer. The babies consistently picked the faces adults rated as good-looking. The sorting starts on day one.
Teachers do it too. In a 1973 study, they were given identical student profiles with different photos attached. The teachers rated the good-looking kids as having more academic potential, paid them more attention in class, and gave more detailed help when they struggled. Same kid on paper, different face, completely different treatment.
This creates a loop that psychologists have studied for decades. When people expect you to be friendly and capable, they act warmer toward you, and because they're warm, you actually become more social in return. Researchers at the University of Minnesota proved this in 1977 with a phone experiment. Men were shown a fake photo before a call (not the actual woman on the line). The ones who thought she was attractive were friendlier. And the women on the other end, who knew nothing about any photo, became more outgoing in response. The expectation changed real behavior in real time.
Now picture this running on repeat for an entire childhood. The good-looking kid gets picked for group projects, invited to birthday parties, gets smiles from strangers at the grocery store. Each of those is a rep. Social skills work like a muscle, and you get better by doing them over and over. The kid who got fewer invitations and fewer smiles fell behind for a simple reason: less practice.
The University of Texas pulled together 919 studies on attractiveness and found the same four things every time: people across cultures agree on who is good-looking, those kids get judged more favorably, they get treated better by the adults around them, and they end up with stronger social skills. Once the loop starts, it feeds itself.
It carries into your paycheck. Economists at UT Austin found that workers rated below average in looks earn 5 to 10% less per hour than average-looking coworkers, even when education and experience are the same. Over a 40-year career, that penalty alone runs into six figures. A 2026 study in Personality and Individual Differences tracked kids rated for their looks at ages 7 and 11, then checked back at age 50. The ones rated attractive in childhood still had better social skills four decades later.
So yeah, this tweet is more right than wrong. But the real driver is practice. Being less attractive as a kid meant fewer people reaching out to you, fewer good interactions, fewer chances to build the muscle. You didn't lack a social gene. You got fewer at-bats.
please shut the fuck up i don't even care about the specific thing you're saying i'm just so tired of hearing predictions one after the other telling me what the future is going to be like just please shut the fuck up
I’d rather hangout with a NYC nepo baby with a trust fund or go fishing with a redneck who rants about how the moon landing was fake than mingle with SF striver types. One of the most insufferable groups of people on earth.
When are tech folk going to get that people like wasting time, it's life. They don't optimize for efficiency, they try to get by, they watch dumb stuff, they enjoy shopping. Inefficiency is another work for living and life.
Your m mean and median job isn't a software engineer in Menlo Park, it's Ashley in accounts in a not for profit in Columbus, it's Jesse , the office manager for a tool rental business in Tallahassee, they are more likely to use a Fax machine than Slack.
They quite like meetings because they like chatting, they'll use AI to make a better invite to their baby shower, not agentify their job.
These people, nor their bosses boss, aren't in a rush to build software as a side hustle, they are keen to use AI to check if their vet is overcharging them. They'd like AI to check spelling on the email to the school governor.
They don't want agentic commerce, they want AI to be in the background and make living a little less stressful