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[Brad @bradcross]

@gorddownie @thehipofficial But the last time we saw him August 12 2016 will forever be my favourite. Thanks to Gord and all the boys for letting us all say goodbye

[Brad @bradcross]

@gorddownie Watching @thehipofficial at Wasaga Beach July 2004. Gord was on fire, and dancing with the mic the whole time

[Brad @bradcross]

@HayesTSN I cannot WAIT for @OverDrive1050 tomorrow…👀⛳️🏌️‍♂️

[Brad @bradcross]

@heylandsberg Id listen in…@JeffMarek good to see you again

[Brad @bradcross]

@TheFordFANatic @MapleLeafs @FordCanada @FordCanada F-150 lightning!!⚡️

[Brad @bradcross]

@TheFordFANatic @MapleLeafs - Cheering on the leafs together! @CrossKandice

[Brad @bradcross]

@kelsieswrites 💔

[Brad @bradcross]

Great advice from one of my musical heros

[Blake Burge @blakeaburge]

I'm convinced that there is one skill that separates truly intelligent people from those that aren't:

Listening.

This concept of "being a recorder" by Rick Rubin explains it perfectly.

In less than a minute, Rubin provides 4 simple steps that, if followed, will change how you think about your interactions with others.

Step 1: "It starts with coming in blank. Not having any preconceived ideas, being open, and really listening. Not thinking about what you're going to say next or what your opinion is."

Step 2: "Basically being a recorder. Just hearing what comes in. Processing that information and trying to do our best to do that without any of the beliefs we might have to impact what that is."

Step 3: "I don't want to have any reaction happening when you're speaking and want to be as neutral as possible. My goal is not to form an opinion, it's to understand."

Step 4: "If you say something that somehow triggers me, I wouldn't challenge you. I would ask how did you find that? How did you get to that place? I want to understand who the person is, and through questioning, we can usually get there."

My thoughts:

So often we enter conversations with a predetermined idea of how it will go, what the other person will say, and how we will respond.

The goal, as Rubin says, should be to "understand, not form an opinion."

When someone says something you disagree with, rather than being triggered, frustrated, or defensive, why not dig deeper into how they came to that opinion?

While different than your own, that doesn't inherently mean they're wrong.

It seems as though at some level we've lost the ability to have civil discourse. To disagree and still coexist.

It doesn't make sense to me and I think––with a little effort––we can change (and just might learn something from each other along the way.)

Thanks for reading.

If you enjoyed this, follow me @blakeaburge for more.

[Brad @bradcross]

@TownofNewmarket is your website down? Or just me?

[Brad @bradcross]

@JoePompliano @RFWSInc

[Brad @bradcross]

@VancityJax @strombo Started with an old Yamaha Virago, but as I started to do more bike trips upgraded to a Suzuki V-Strom. Love your work, thanks for that.

[Brad @bradcross]

Excited to see "One Week" with @VancityJax on Prime. First watched it after seeing @strombo interview Josh about the movie. George was right, it's a love story to our country. Watched it maybe 10 times since. If u haven't seen it, enjoy but be prepared to buy a bike... I did.

[The Isotopes @theTopes]

And with an infield pop fly from the other team, the Topes have won!!!!

[Deborah @dsmerek]

.@_chrisemanuel @bradcross Too bad that technology took them out if biz. Maybe they can rebrand as a retro drive in & show old flix instead.