@AnnaDsays@BuckWilde_ My absolute must stop restaurant every time I travel to Austin! The skillet queso with guacamole, followed by chile relleno. Matt’s El Rancho is da bomb!
Day job has been super busy, and in my ‘free’ time, I’ve been working on setting up a photography business website. These two worlds have kept me away from the radios and workbench, but I hope that changes soon.
I do not think we are watching kids fall apart…
I think we are watching adults fall apart, and kids are paying the price.
You see it in schools, at ballgames, in restaurants, and on the roads. You see it in the way a child looks at an adult like the adult is the problem for saying no.
Parents are not parenting these days. Not enough.
Not consistently.
Not in the way kids need.
If we keep pretending everything is fine, we are going to raise a generation that never learned boundaries, never learned respect, and never learned how to handle life when it says no.
I see three kinds of parents right now.
• Parents who are self focused
This is the hardest group for society because nothing gets corrected. Everything becomes an excuse. Everything becomes somebody else’s fault.
They are not always bad people. Many are simply repeating what they lived. Their kids grow up without guard rails, without direction, without correction, without discipline, without the steady love that says, I care enough to stop you.
• Parents who are surviving
These parents love their kids and want to do it right, but they are getting crushed by rent, groceries, car payments, medical bills, overtime, and a world where a livable wage feels out of reach. So they work, and they work, and they work.
While they are doing everything for their children, they barely get to see their children. Kids still need what they have always needed: presence, consistency, boundaries, correction, love, and attention.
• Parents many of us aspire to be like
Attentive, loving, present, willing to say no, and not afraid to lead. What often gets missed is that many of these adults did not grow up with that kind of parenting.
Some came from self focused homes…
Some came from homes that were just surviving…
What changed their path was influence?
Somewhere along the way, someone stepped in and noticed them. A neighbor, a grandparent, a teacher, a coach, a mentor, or a friend’s parent. Someone outside the family circle gave them what they were not getting at home.
Kids need to hear the word no. Not constantly, but enough to learn boundaries, respect, patience, and self control.
No is not mean…
No is protection…
If we are honest, some kids are BEGGING for a no because they want an adult to be the adult.
It shows up in the way you speak to the kid who gets ignored, encourage the teenager who is hanging on by a thread, step in when a child is being raised by the internet, and model respect even when nobody else is.
Sometimes the future of a child changes because an adult decided to say no…
Be safe,
Trooper Ben
#HelpMore
@KennethDurazzo@NissanUSA Most of the Subaru’s from the last 15 or so years are like this as well. I’m convinced they did it to force consumers to bring it in for service.
Wrapping up 10 days working down in Austin. Ready to head home tomorrow, but a very productive couple weeks. Good discussions with my leadership during this time, and a few cool projects are now on my plate.
@DaveOTGphotog Dave, do you know if any of the aircraft at Pease are staying the night? Toying with the idea of heading up in the morning to catch their departure if many stick around.