Acts of service men are dangerously attractive.
Fixing problems, making sure you’ve eaten, charging your phone, carrying your things… that’s romance to me.
It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out, feed you, do nice things for you, and compliment you.
You should never have to teach someone to do that.
I highly recommend you find yourself a clingy (healthy) lovey dovey partner who's super excited about you. Life is too short to spend it with someone who act like showing love is a chore.
My man said something to me that really stuck.
He told me, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your dad, I’m your partner. You’re free to make your own choices. Just understand that every choice has consequences. If you choose something that damages what we’ve built, that’s on you.”
He said, “I’ll always tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s what healthy communication looks like. But if you keep stepping over the line after I’ve shown you where it is, then you were never really protecting us to begin with.”
And honestly, that’s what accountability in a relationship sounds like.
I was reading and our son tried to ask me something.
My husband stops him and goes:
“What’s in her hand?”
“A book.”
“What’s in my hand?”
“Nothing.”
“So who do you go talk to?”
The way I’ve never felt more supported in my life.
Y’all scream “protect the innocent” when it’s a clump of cells in a womb… But when living, breathing kids are killed by bullets or bombs, it’s suddenly “collateral damage” and “the cost of freedom.”
The selective outrage is wild. Pick a lane.