U will try to be the best daughter, try to be best in academics, avoid relationships, no affairs, no outings, won't go out with friends even they are angry over you for never being present and still be the worst person to exist for them
to all the men out there, i urge you not to debate women right now.
i see a lot of men defending that clown by saying, “it was just a joke” or “you went to a comedy show, why are you taking it seriously?”
that’s exactly the point.
women aren’t reacting to a joke, they’re reacting to the mindset behind it.
because when a man casually suggests that spending ₹370 on a date means a woman owes him something in return, it stops being comedy & starts revealing character.
that’s why so many women are angry not because they missed the joke but because they’ve met that man before.
& he didn’t stop there.
in another video, he went on to talk about intimate details. about kissing her. about trying to put his hands where they weren’t wanted. about openly objectifying her body & about being rejected.
if your first instinct is to defend it & feeling sad about him losing his job over a viral reel, maybe ask yourself why.
it is exhausting to be a woman.
not just in rural villages.
not just in small towns.
everywhere on this earth.
women spend their lives calculating risks that most of us men never even notice.
which road to take.
whether to share their live location
whether to ignore a comment or confront it.
whether the man staring at them is just staring or planning something worse.
in past one month, three of my friends shared three different stories with me & honestly i had no idea how to even console them
one had an old man masturbate in front of her while she was returning from the gym at seven in the morning.
another stepped outside her house & walked 100 metres thinking it was the blinkit guy cause she ordered something. but no it wasn’t. it was a complete stranger who asked her to help her with an address & showed her a glimpse pornography on his phone & sped away with an evil smile.
the third stepped out of the gym (same gym as mine), crossed the road and was groped by a man on a passing bike.
three women. three stories. one month.
the saddest part is that none of those stories will shock most women reading this because almost every woman has her own version.
a stranger who followed her home.
a man who stood too close.
a relative who made her uncomfortable.
a crowd that looked away.
women don’t need statistics to understand fear.
many of them have lived it.
and that’s why so many men miss the point.
yes, some women use men, reject men for money & behave badly.
but those things do not make men afraid to walk home alone at night. they do not make men stay in high alert mode 24*7. they do not make men text their friends & family that : “i reached safely.”
they do not make men rethink what they wear before stepping outside. that is the difference.
so when women are angry, stop rushing to explain why they shouldn’t be. stop using your manchild logic to make her feel more stupid for venting out.
stop treating every expression of pain like a debate competition.
stop responding with “not all men.”
women already know it is not all men.
the problem is that it is enough men.
enough men for almost every woman to have a story.
enough men for mothers to worry.
enough men for daughters to stay alert.
enough men for fear to become routine.
there is so much that we as men will never fully understand but something does not need to be personally experienced to be taken seriously.
patriarchy isn’t just a system. it is a habit.
it lives in jokes. it lives in silences.
it lives in the casual objectification of women disguised as humour.
it lives in comment sections where women are reduced to objects and cuss words for having a voice.
it lives in the laughter that follows a degrading joke about women.
most of us inherited parts of it without choosing to, but being an adult means deciding what stays and what goes.
unlearn it because one day a woman will trust you enough to feel safe around you and if she cannot feel safe with the men who claim to love her then ask yourself what exactly have we become ???
🚨 SMRITI MANDHANA REVEALS A TEST MATCH INCIDENT NOBODY SAW COMING
🗣️ "My periods started while I was batting in the middle of a Test match."
Smriti had to walk up to the umpire and say something no cricketer ever expects to say on the field:
🗣️ "My periods have started and I need to go back immediately."
Playing in white clothing, she had no choice but to leave the field, change, and return to continue her innings for India. 🇮🇳
The India star shared a powerful behind-the-scenes reality of women's cricket that fans rarely get to hear about.
Stories like these remind us that female athletes overcome challenges most spectators never even think about. ❤️