Men, stop hiding behind African culture & polygamy when you want to cheat & sleep around.
Being a committed partner isn't pap & vleis, and most men are struggling even with a short-term girlfriend.
IsiThembu is for men live & breathe isiNtu. Not Christians. Not modern men. Not for men who cannot build homes for their wives. Not for men who need their wives to work.
Most of you/us are just modern men who lack discipline, want to sleep with whoever we want & don't know how to be the man of the house. You don't even know isiNtu, but want to hide behind it for amanyala.
Please stop it gents. Imagine pretending to be Muslim so you can have 4 wives, yet you don't read the Qur'an nor pray 5x a day, you eat pork & don't lead an Islamic lifestyle. That's what you guys are doing. Stop please. 🙏🏽
Bro to bro: The HIV, HPV, AIDS, Herpes, & Chlamydia rate is way too damn high to be having hoes, side pieces, and unprotected sex with random people just cause you're "horny". Sex requires TRUST. You're trusting another individual with your body, and essentially your life.
My uncle divorced his wife in his forties.
Married someone else within a year.
Divorced her two years later.
Then remarried his first wife.
I asked him why.
His answer stopped me cold:
5 things I learnt from my mama:
1. “Sex is not a gift to a man. It is a mutual pleasure exchange, an intimacy that allows two bodies to truly connect. If you are not enjoying it, you must say something. Your pleasure is not optional.”
C-Section vs Normal Delivery -The Truth Nobody Tells You!🤰🏽
Your mother says "push that baby out!"
Your friend says "just do CS, it's easier!"
And you're sitting there confused 😂
Let me give you the REAL fact
👶🏽 Vagînal Delivery - Real Talk:
✅ Shorter hospital stay & faster recovery
✅ Baby gets beneficial bacteria from birth canal
✅ Easier breastfeeding start
❌ Painful without epidural 😂
❌ Rîsk of tearing and stitches 😬
❌ Can be long and exhausting!
🏥 C-Section - Real Talk:
✅ Planned & scheduled - no surprise 3am labour! 😂
✅ No tearing
✅ Lifesaving when medically necessary
❌ Major surgery - 4 to 6 weeks recovery!
❌ That incision pain is NO joke 😬
❌ Higher r!sk of infection and blood clots
😂 Things That Need To Stop:
❌ "CS mamas didn't really give birth" - She had her abdomen cut open. SHE GAVE BIRTH! 👏🏽
❌ "Vag!nal delivery makes you loose" - False and very rūde 😂
❌ "CS is the easy way out" - Try recovering from surgery with a newborn first 😂
❌ "Natural is always better" - The SAFEST delivery is always the best one!
💬 There is NO trophy for how you delivered your baby! 🏆
No gold medal for pushing through pain.
No shame in having a C-section.
The only goal is a healthy mama and a healthy baby! 👶🏽